i get along with all of his other flings except this one she seems so sneaky and she was his first love and he wants to continue to be her friend and it bothers me so much. what do i do i cant stand it i bend over backwards for him.... and i dont get any kinda thanks ever. she is b**chy and has a kid. my bf is kinda a hard*** and doesnt like to talk bout his feelings. he isnt even good with kids. im so confused i dont wanna break it off yet do i have any other options at this point?
2006-09-05 07:48:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him . thats totaly stupid he wants to be friends with her. he obviously values her freindship more than yours.
2006-09-05 07:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the same situation as me, but ti sure reminds me of what im goin through, hardass, won't talk about his feelings, umm total jerk.. hmmm i bend over backwards for him and he doesn't do a thing in return... seems like guys like this will never change, tell him it bothers you... I'm about to break up with my boyfriend and it will be the hardest thing I ever do. He's my first love, and I know I'll always love him and if he feels the same for you as you feel for him, he will respect that it hurts you that he wants to still see her. Make sure he knows that you are hurt by it and if he really cares he will put a stop to it.
2006-09-05 07:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by tem_in_a_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as you becoming a friend to her, I don't think that's a good Idea being that the situation makes you uncomfortable. and as for your boyfriend, men seem to overlook when a female is giving there all in a relationship so that's not an uncommon thing, but one thing is tell him how you feel about being unappreciated and about the relationship with him and his ex. Sometimes we tend to overlook things when its not brought to our attention. And if you don't begin to see some chances then.....Well maybe its you that's needs to change, meaning change some of the things you do for him. Maybe he's too spoiled by you.
2006-09-05 07:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by msshelene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tuff cause i know how you feel you love him. His friendship may be innocent. But why would they be friends if they could be together? There should be limits to their friendship though Right? .there is nothing wrong with them being friends as long as it is innocent. or as long they don't try to make plans to go out or somebull like that ya know, his ex shouldn't be at his house, he shouldn't be at her house either. No hangingout unless you can come. ya get my point. Good Luck
2006-09-05 08:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you,ask him to stop being friends with this person. An ex-girlfriend has no reign on a current girlfriend. If the ex-girlfriend thinks she should, she is just full of herself. If he respects and loves you he will do what makes you happy.
2006-09-05 07:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by gel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has NEVER EVER Cheated on ANYONE....then trust him. Im friends with all of my X's and I can tell you right now... if any girl ever told them they dont want them to be my friend anymore, they would dump em... and have in the past! I've had lots of my x's dump their girl's because they give them sh1t about bein friends with me. Some of my x's are some of my best guy friends, and we all plan on keeping it that way!
2006-09-05 07:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has absolutely no respect for your feelings and simply wants what he wants.
And why would you "bend over backwards" for this guy??? He obviously doesnt remotely do this for you...
2006-09-05 07:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and why would he want to be friends with her anyways????????????ahh men..they always want a spare tire!!!..if i were you.....think what is best for you....love yourself girl...and give urself some more dignity....he's not the only fish in the ocean.think!
2006-09-05 07:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by gold f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant trust him it is time to move on without trust you have nothing
2006-09-05 07:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by mcander01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋