My bf had been having trouble getting it up or staying hard over the past few weeks. He said it was a mental thing -- that because i commented on his inability to get it up at one point - he was now nervous and was having trouble because he was thinking too much. He said it had nothing to do with me or his attraction to me. We have a wonderful relationship but I couldn't help but think it was me. Now he doesn't have a problem any longer -- he can now have sex but is all of the sudden talking dirty. I am hurt by this - not because I mind the dirty talk but because I wonder where all of this is coming from and feel like what we normally had was apparently not good enough. This has happened the last few times we had sex -- should I bring it up? Let it go and see what happens? I'm not a prude and wouldn't mind this but given what has happened recently -- I don't know what to think! HELLPPP
2006-09-05 07:46:35 · 28 answers · asked by Iluvme2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you almost ruined the guys life by telling him about his problem. its all about you isnt it?
2006-09-05 07:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by quackattic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to think either. I don't know wh y you think the past is now not good enough. That seems like a strange way to word it. Things change. people as well as peoples sex lives evolve. What's wrong with something new? You should always embrace something new if you feel comfortable with it. Your sex life will become boring anyway if you always do the same thing. I don't really see a problem. Talk dirty back to him. I bet he'll like that. I don't really see why you should be hurt.
2006-09-05 14:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rock N' Roll Junkie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alot of nowadays dirty talk is coming from a monster known as pornography where this type of adult entertainment casualy uncensors what goes on between two lovers and totally takes the "specialness" out of it making it just the same as two ppl going out for coffee and so once into pornography it infects the brain and also causes thoughts often not of the own person to take control of the person's mind such as reading stories in porno magazines and reading the dirty words written on the page or watching the movies and taking the words in the movies to use for your own i'd say this is the most likely cause you should ask him about it cause it could be the wedge that would drive you two apart if not faced soon enough
2006-09-05 14:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by purrplepuddding 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're hurt by this? So the guy enjoys talking dirty, what's the big deal? And why are you even making this about YOU? What you did before worked then, this is what works now! All relationships evolve, as do our sexual desires and turn ons.
2006-09-05 14:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by whoamihere32 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is really talk to him and find out what's with the dirty talk all of a sudden. If he likes to fantasize it could be very interesting to go for it.
2006-09-05 14:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he just got some confidence and this is what he likes. My dh started doing this a couple of years after we got married. Nothing raunchy or perverted just a few comments here and there. Enjoy! He is so you may as well.
2006-09-05 14:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by MommaOne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
different things excite people.
it may be the taboo thing going on with the dirty talk.
try to be VERY aggressive next time, and tell him not to say a word, just do what you want and be 'in charge'
you will get the same reaction, probably a better one and the dirty talk wont even happen.
the key is variety. change things around a LOT...
within your ideas of making love that is.
2006-09-05 14:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by digital genius 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should be happy that everything is working right. Help him in the dirty language. I don't see anything wrong with him getting a little on the wild side.
2006-09-05 14:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your A Real Peice Of Work, First You Insult Hi About Not Getting It Up, then Your "Hurt" because he wants to tlk dirty for better sexual performance and pleasure. (It's NOT PERSONAL !!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!)
You Don't Know What To Think?, Okay then, Think About How Your Going To Let Him Go And Stay On Your Own BECAUSE YOU DON'T DESERVE HIM !!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!.
HOPE THIS HELPS
2006-09-05 14:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Spaghetti MY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have wanted to bring 'dirty talk' into the relationship but was shy about it and this may have caused his member to temporarily short circuit. Once he got up the courage to start talking dirty his member recalibrated and now he is fine.
2006-09-05 14:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Calmdown, maybe the talking just eases his nerves and get his mind off the fact that he couldn't keep it up before. Let him do what he gotta do, as long as he only doing it to you then theres no need to worry. Enjoy it girl.
2006-09-05 14:50:20 · answer #11 · answered by belle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋