I have a guy friend whom I have been friends with for years, and liked him for a lot of the time.
The problem is there is a girl he likes that has been putting through hell. He says he loves her, and wants it to work out.
He is smart and stupid at the same time.
I have been giving him common sense advice, but seeing him this upset hurts me, what should I do?
2006-09-05 07:38:14 · 32 answers · asked by Aeon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've been doing what you can. Because you're giving him this advice, he knows you care. The thing is, when it comes to affairs of the heart, it's so hard to take advice. The feelings are stronger than the head. Just wait it out and keep being there for him.
2006-09-05 07:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but only time will show him he's not taking the right decision. I have a friend that I love very much and he is in the same situation. Every time I give him advice all he has to say is: But I love him!. It does hurt me too see him being treated the way he is, but....he likes it. I pray for him. That's what you can do too. Good luck.
PS.: Nice of you been such a good friend.
2006-09-05 07:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by cb56br 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for him is what you are already doing. Be his friend. You cannot make his mind up for him, only he can do that. Admiting your undying love for him right now when he is the most vulnerable will only complicate things further. If you really love him, you have to let him figure things out for himself. He can't jump into a relationship with you when emotionally he is still attached to someone else. You don't want to risk loosing the friendship.
2006-09-05 07:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ro Ro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a true friend of yours do not walk away from him as a friend. A true friend stands by you no matter what you do, a true friend does not judge - they stand beside you and support you. You have to allow him to realize for himself that his girlfriend is not the right person for him. When and if that does happen, that is when you will have the opportunity to decide to act on your feelings for him or not. Build on your friendship with him - let him know that you are there for him and always will be. Sometimes it is so hard to see that the best things for you are right in front of you.
2006-09-05 07:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best way to go. Let him know how you feel because you will never find out if it can work between you to if you dont. Make sure you give him all your support and are always there for him but tell him what is going on. I am sure you will feel relieved when you do.
2006-09-05 07:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be a good friend it sounds like he needs one right now, just don't put yourself in the position to be the rebound chic - cuz most of the time, those don't work out and he won't want to have anything to do w/you~ Good luck~
2006-09-05 07:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend, but remember that you two are only friends. If you it too hard on you to just be his friend, maybe you should not be friends. You can always talk to him and see what he says. Tell him the honest truth that we he will understand. Also if he is doing this to this girl now, maybe if you two were dating he would do that to you. Is that really what you want.
2006-09-05 07:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what your opinion is when you want to. Realize that you are not him and don't know all the details. We are ALL smart and stupid at the same time. Heartfelt sharing is always nice and sometimes even helpful.
2006-09-05 07:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is how much do you like this person, or as you put it "liked" do you like him as a friend, lover? Right now, I would just step aside and wait for him to come to you for advice. Good luck.
2006-09-05 07:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you care about him in your own way even maybe love him, theres nothing much you can do can you--except continue to support and be there for him-the beauty about friendship is that you can do that unconditionally--because he is in love with somebody else--however, always be honest because there will be a day that this will come up----he will ask you how you feel, or you will just not be able to hide it any longer.......
im not saying you 2 will be together---but the love of a friendship is just as strong and honest , as in love-------
2006-09-05 07:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋