....of being taken advantage of, mistreated, etc?
I have a firmly held belief that nice guys have been treated worse in dating scenarios than any other group for the last 15 or so years.
I'm not interested in becoming more of a jerk. I refuse to become a player or hurt them before they hurt me, etc.
I'm 35, and my ex-wife totally took advantage of me being a "nice guy." She was 36, so at least in my situation, higher age wasn't a safeguard, although I think it usually is.
Basically, I have almost no tolerance left for this tendency of some of today's women.
2006-09-05 07:37:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right there with ya, bud; women nowadays are mostly damaged goods.
Personally, I think you'll meet the best (as in well adjusted, not necessarily the hottest) women in professional organizations, trade clubs, or at the park. Obviously social places (bars, etc.) are out unless you're shooting for strictly short term.
2006-09-05 07:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat you are in. I was the nice guy. Since I grew up around a bunch of females and had a chance to hear them talk amoungst each other, I had insight into their little worlds. Their fears, complaints about men and such. As a result I tried to incorporate some "lessons learned" in my dealings with women when I entered the dating game. This should have given me an advantage right? Wrong!
First and foremost, there is a difference between being nice to women and being romantic towards them. Nice guys don't get laid. Either I was rejected for being too nice or when I did get the girl she walked all over me. Over time I had to develop a backbone. It is OK to be nice to a woman, but you have to keep on your guard. Don't give the woman you are with the world at once. Do give, but learn to stand your ground. Make her know she has the best thing in the world in you, but be prepared to bolt like lightning if she abuses your good nature.
Pain is a part of the dating game. When you put yourself out there, you risk getting burned. There is nothing you can really do to minimize it. You just have to become a little harder to take the blows. Learn how to handle rejection as well as dish it out. If that means you go through a 1000 women to find the one right for you, then so be it.
2006-09-05 07:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...I don't take advantage of men or anyone else. I have been taken advantage of in the past. In my present relationship I just told him how I had been treated and I let him know right off that I would not tolerate being treated badly or be taken advantage of. Things aren't always perfect but they are worth working out respectfully.
2006-09-05 07:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by SouthernBelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys don't get laid.
Get to Leykis 101. The Professor will help.
2006-09-05 07:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't minimize your risk because that what relationship are risk but you can take a break for a while and u neva kno when least expect thats when it sneaks up on you
2006-09-05 07:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man-up man...gets some gonzos!!
2006-09-05 07:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋