My bf had been having trouble getting it up or staying hard over the past few weeks. He said it was a mental thing -- that because i commented on his inability to get it up at one point - he was now nervous and was having trouble because he was thinking too much. He said it had nothing to do with me or his attraction to me. We have a wonderful relationship but I couldn't help but think it was me. Now he doesn't have a problem any longer -- he can now have sex but is all of the sudden talking dirty. I am hurt by this - not because I mind the dirty talk but because I wonder where all of this is coming from and feel like what we normally had was apparently not good enough. This has happened the last few times we had sex -- should I bring it up? Let it go and see what happens? HELLPPP
2006-09-05 07:26:16 · 16 answers · asked by Iluvme2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he gets turned on by the naughty words
2006-09-05 07:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You made a comment about him having trouble??? Jeez what were you thinking? Don't you know how much of their identity and ego is attached to that ridiculous thing they call a penis?? He's talking dirty now because thats what it is taking for him to get it up. I wonder what will be next? It isn't about you, this is definitely his issue. I wouldn't make a comment but I'd say a talk is definitely in order. Has he always had problems? How old is he? If this is a problem that he has developed recently he should to to a dr. and get checked out....there are a lot of medical problems that can cause it and if thats the case its just going to get worse.
2006-09-05 14:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By commenting on his lack of "pop" you made him feel insecure about being able to perform for you. However, now that you are talking dirty he has more gusto in the pants and you are questioning it? Probably one of the reasons why he's staying hard now is because this is something new and exciting. If you like the fact your boyfriend is staying hard then I would continue talking dirty and I would not bring up the fact that he stays hard because of it. By bringing it up he might lose his confidence again; my recommendation is to keep things different and try new things in the bedroom (talking dirty, light S&M play, photos, etc.) Keep doing it unless it begins to cause concern or gets too kinky for you. If you're against trying new things then maybe the sex is too boring for him.
2006-09-05 14:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to figure out a way to get you involved.He may be reading magazines etc.. to help get you excited.Ask the man,he deserves it.Does the dirty talk bother you?If you are so rigid that every time he tries something new you get spooked,don't get married.I tried all different kinds of things with the love of my life and when she liked it ,I tried again and if she didn't I moved on.When it comes to sex,it's all about her.
2006-09-05 14:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have made a comment about him not being able to get it up in the first place.
That is a very touchy subject to alot of guys.
You just should have reassurred him at that time and just nursed his ego a bit.
You've brought this on all by yourself
2006-09-05 14:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Wayne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get to worked up about it. Maybe he wants to please you and this turns him on. He is probably trying hard to make it good for you. Maybe he has become more comfortable with you and always had a desire to talk dirty, but never had the nerve. If you dont like it, talk to him about it. But if you do, enjoy it, and maybe even try doing it back. Nothing wrong with spicing up your sex life.
2006-09-05 14:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell woman what up wit u to much or not enough hello talk dirty and get it on leave the man to enjoy and go down and him to enjoy him like this baby.so gl and tc bye
2006-09-05 14:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should compromise. Allow the dirty talk, and ask for something you want in return ;)
2006-09-05 14:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by beautifuldisasterforurenjoyment 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should bring this up to him for the simple fact that it is a big part in your reltionship (i assume) maybe this has come from other sexual experiences with other people and they enjoy the talk so he may feel you sha'll.
2006-09-05 14:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by j-dog 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are thinking too much. if you freak every time he tries something new no wonder he is nervous about sex.
2006-09-05 14:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋