If you feel that you are unattractive to society and can't get someone attractive, what gives you the right to say that other person isn't attractive enough to date? Maybe people should try and find a mate by personality and their good qualities as a person and not discriminate against someone who is physically on the same level as you. Beauty is different for everyone and the most ugly person in the world to you can be beautiful to someone else.
2006-09-05 07:00:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry the question should have been:
Why would one physically unattractive person say that someone is to unattractive to date?
2006-09-05 07:07:38 · update #1
This wasn't someone who insulted me. A guy posted a question here basically saying he was fat but couldn't get hot women and could only get secondary women. I thought that was beyond shallow, because he is considered less then perfect to society for being overweight. Why would he discrimminate against someone in the same boat as him.
2006-09-05 07:13:19 · update #2
I agree. Love is blind. The guy I love is considered butt ugly to some of my girls but he's the hottest thing to me because of some of his qualities like loyalty.
2006-09-05 07:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My friends think I am strange because I have always been able to have any guy I want, but I choose to always go for the nerdy type. It's all in each persons taste. Someone that isn't so attractive, still has the right to choose there own type of mate. We don't live in a perfect world, were people don't judge on appearance. There is however someone out there for everyone, so one mans (or woman's) trash is anothers treasure.
2006-09-05 07:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, plastic mania would cease to exist. Unfortunately, society has created a checklist that has become an unspoken standard. Beauty does fade and if a person has nothing inside, they're going to be the ones alone and still searching for the perfect looking mate. I'd feel bad for those obsessed by plastic mania, but I'm too content being average to care.
2006-09-05 07:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 23 year old girl in very good "physical" condition. My boyfriend of 2 years has cyst on his right cheek where fatty tissue for some reason deposits there. When I first met him I really enjoyed his company and started showing up places where I normally wouldn't b/c I knew he was going to be there. After tons of flirting and hints that I'd like him to ask me out on a date I finally caved and asked him. We've been dating ever since. After we'd been dating for a while I asked him why he never asked me out, it was so ovious that he was just as attracted to me as I was to him. When he told me that he didn't feel like he was "good enough" for me, I was devasted. People had been making fun of that "thing" on the side of his face for years and were denied knowing what a great guy he was. So in answer to your question I wouldn't want to go out w/ someone who only wanted a date b/c I was "hot" and I definantly wouldn't worry about why someone wouldn't go out w/ me b/c I'm "not". If someone would actually say that another person is not good enough for them then the "attractive" person doesn't sound like anyone I would want to spend any time w/. I was raised not to judge a book by its cover.
2006-09-05 07:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as an attractive person, I do not tell people when they are unattractive. I allow their mirrors to break the news to them.
I have dated somewhat unattractive women in my day. My friends used to say I had no standards, but my standards were not always skin deep, the also had to have nice mammaries. I had another (good looking) friend who would only date gorgeous women, but I say he missed out on some really great sex because of these shallow standards.
2006-09-05 07:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. People should not be so shallow. What gives us a right to judge other people by appearance? We should go by the things that really matter, the things that will only improve with age, like personality and character.
2006-09-05 07:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the people who look at someones looks and they only judge that person of there looks is a very shallow person theirself. Like the saying goes "Never judge the book by the cover". Alot of people have lost out of really knowing some good people by judging them by their looks. I feel sorry for them people.
2006-09-05 07:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by JUSTME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you have been insulted by someone.Don't take it to heart. Trust my word buddy, who is that attractive donkey to decide who is great and who isn't. Look at yourself -you are great -a marvellous creation, which no human can copy. So what if that attractive person is in demand , you have got of set of your own skills, develop them. And remember its not worth listening to those people who are nothing in you life, think of those who really care about you.
2006-09-05 07:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ginna Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has what attracts them to a certain somebody and has what turns them off from somebody and ur right people shouldn't discriminate and if u don't see anything u like then shut up and keep it movin especially if u don't have something nice 2 say
2006-09-05 07:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to get over this.
Shallow behavior is stupid, not to mention hurtful.
Looks fade, but people's personalities, sense of humor, kindness, etc. are around for awhile.
People need to look at the big picture when they date/marry/etc.
2006-09-05 07:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by nowimrelaxedicantbesure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋