I'm in a reltnshp with a man whos 15 yr older than me. We've been together for 11 mos. In the begnning evrythng was cool, we went out evry weekend. But the thig is we work together and his ex works there 2. And evry otha day me and her have beef cuz she's jealous. He has told her in front of me to leave me and him alone numerous of times. But it's like she still stuck on him. Plz help
2006-09-05 06:59:31 · 19 answers · asked by maleka2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jus relax.Ignore her and trust him.If he did that in her face then honey i don't think u have anything to worry about.And keep in mind there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.Every relationship has a few problems in it.
2006-09-05 07:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Shaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, unless your a very mature 20 year old, what exactly do you have in common w/ a 35 year old man? And when you say ex do you mean ex-g/f or exwife? Most 35 yr old men have their lives together. Jobs, homes, there getting comfortable in their lives. Most 20 yr olds are in college and still trying to figure out what they want out of life. I don't know sounds kind of funny. I really think that even though your having problems w/ a jealous ex eventually you'll have other problems. For example when your 35 he'll be 50. And by the time your 50 he'll be retiring. Have you thought about what your going to do if the two of you decide to stay together? Do you really want to get up and go to work everyday for 15 years while your "husband" gets up and enjoys retirement by himself and then when you retire enjoying it by yourself b/c by then your husband will be 80 and probally need help taking a bath and going to the bathroom. Good luck.
2006-09-05 07:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does sound complicated.
The age thing is not a big deal to me, but adding a jealous ex into the picture is a recipe for trouble. The 3 of you working together? That's a time-bomb waiting to go off.
I guess the only thing (short of talking to a supervisor, which is kind of drastic) is ignoring her. If you care about him and he cares about you, don't let her get in the way.
2006-09-05 07:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by nowimrelaxedicantbesure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you every thought maybe if is dating you "A young pretty hot girl" to make he's ex jealous. I mean come on what does a 35 your old man have in common with a 20 year old girl. I bet he is only in it for the sex and to have a trumiphy on he's arm. You are only 20 and haven't learned yet you don't date people you work with.
2006-09-05 07:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just expect to have to deal with her as long as you are with him. She's part of the package. He may not want it to be that way, but that's the way it is. And it very well may not change even if all three of you change jobs. She could still call or come by even if you don't see her at work.
2006-09-05 07:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"... evry otha day me and her have beef cuz..."
takes 2 to argue!
"...to leave me and him alone numerous of times. But it's like she..."
takes 2 to argue!
There is added peer pressure in an age diff relationship...(just look at these answers to your question)
thing is
are you gonna listen to the peer pressure
or
listen to your heart?
I was in an age diff a little more that yours
I listen to my heart.
she listened to her mom...
(she told me that is why she was breaking up)
I'm alone now...
.
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so, what cha gonna do?
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2006-09-05 07:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done the samething with a older man, but it turned out that he was just dating me to get back at the ex. Watch out. Becareful ok.
2006-09-05 07:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are sure of him and happy with him that is all that matters. Try to ignore the ex and don't let her get to you that is exactly what she wants. Be happy besides her and eventually she will give up.
2006-09-05 07:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That iss a tough situation i would suggest you just go about your business missery loves company don feed into her bull just dont let her cross the line
2006-09-05 07:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by classiclady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think first analyze your self are you having problems because his X girlfriend is there in the office................... is her presense effecting you guys relationship if not then just ignore and be happy . annd to be honest problems occur when there is a lack of mutal understandig and the age gap also matters maybe he is more meture then you are........ or the other way
2006-09-05 07:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by desdemona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋