My son is seven years old. I was incarserated in prison when my girlfriend found out she was pregnant. I guess while I was in prison she got arrested for possesion/distributing illegal substances. Her parents took the custody of my son, but didn't adopt him. They now want to adopt him (she is still in prison and doesn't want him) My parents paid child support to her parents while I was in prison and since I've been out I've paid child support. Her parents still want to adopt...is there anything I can do to prevent this from happening? Shouldn't I get full custody of my child? I cannot afford a lawyer and I'm not sure what I shoud do? What steps should I be taking?
2006-09-05 06:56:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
To all the questions...I was incarserated for the first five years of his life. I cleaned up my act...I don't distribute anymore. I work a pretty steady job. And I love my son to death. Her parents seem to have something against my ethnic background I'm Mexican. My girlfriend then isn't my girlfriend now. I should have said that...she's my ex.
2006-09-05 07:06:44 · update #1
Go to the court in your town and see what kind of lawyers they have for free. Find one who will support you...and try to get your kid back. Have you played as active of a role in his life as you can? How long were you incarserated after he was born? Good Luck.
2006-09-05 07:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want that? With full custody you would have full responsibility for the child. You would have to provide a home, schooling, clothes, food, bed, meals, health care and doctor's visits etc for the child. On the other hand if you let them adopt you never have to pay child support again. If you really want to have custody and be a good father, then you need to start proving it, because the judge will need to see evidence that the kid will be better off with you. Get a house with a yard and a bedroom for the kid. Move to a good school district. Get a good job to support the kid. Start to develop a relationship with the kid if possible. If not, then send letters and keep copies of the letters (unless there is a VPO against you of course). You should be getting references from your employer, your counselor, your landlord and whoever else saying that you are stable and would be a great father. In the meantime take on a little brother through the "big brothers" program to prove your ability to be responsible and mentor a child. If you have all this when you go to court you have a good chance.
2006-09-05 07:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends did you ever sign over your rights? If you did your screwed. If you didn't then there may be a chance to get your kid back. Call up the couthouse and tell them you need to get in contact with a probono lawyer (one who works for free) from there the lawyers will give you advice.
The question is have you cleaned up your act and will your girlfriend when she gets out? I understand you love your kid no matter what but if you are doing anything to get arrested again you should think of your kids best interests. I don't mean this to sound mean at all, so please don't take it that way.
Well good luck!
2006-09-05 07:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by sondra j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself these questions, am i ready to be a father,am i willing to give my son a life better than mine, how will i react if my ex wants back in. legally he is your son, a paternity test will prove that (ihope) but if you cannot be honest on these questions, then let the family raise the child. also how about your family? always remember that a custody battle can get very ugly.
2006-09-05 07:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by milton b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That poor kid. He is probably better off with her parents. You have a prison record and so does your girlfriend. Let the child have a decent life.
2006-09-05 06:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a lawyer! I know that, at least in my state, you would have to sign off your rights completely for them to adopt him.
Talk to a good family lawyer!
2006-09-05 07:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit back and ask yourself what is the best thing for your child. Don't be selfish, he only gets one shot at life and if you love him as you said you do, you have to do whats right for him.
2006-09-08 03:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by kiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're the father, you can prevent the adoption since they need both you and the mother to sign your rights away as a parent. I read about it yesterday.
2006-09-05 07:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your the parent.... if you have cleaned up your life then you should get full custody... But you may have to go to court to get him.
2006-09-05 06:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goddamn!Thats your child how in the hell can dey do dat ****! excuse my language they did that to me but I cleaned my self up and came and got my child back!!!!
2006-09-05 07:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~*~B3@UTY_IZ_M@_N@M3~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋