I have 2 daughters one is 9 and the other 5 . My 9 year old has been constantly ignoring my rules . We live in a small town not many kids her age to play with . There is this one girl she always sneaks off and goes and plays with even thow I have repeatedly told her I don't want her to go there . This girl is 12-15 years old not sure of her actual age . But she is a little to old for my daughter to hang out with . Right ? Well the last 2 days she has told me that she was going to go play with another little girl that she is allowed to play with ( she takes her little sister with her ) . Then when I go to check on them they are at the other little girls house that they know they are not allowed . They use the excuse that there friend wasn't home . So they went to the other little girls house . They don't even come and tell me that there friend wasn't home . It isn't like they can't come home and play . They have bikes ,trampoline , dolls , gameboys , All kind of toys , What do I Do ???
2006-09-05 06:50:46 · 5 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
All of my daughters friends live right here on our street and they are not allowed to go in any ones house so I can see them when I check on them ! Except when she sneaks off to the older girls house . It's a street over .
2006-09-05 07:18:49 · update #1
Why is she being allowed out of the house? If any of my kids (12, 8, 6) did that they would be grounded to their rooms for 2-3 days. Then maybe allowed out to play in our yard only. If she was still sneaking off then she would only be allowed to play outside if I was available/willing to sit outside and supervise.
2006-09-05 07:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be black and white with the rules (sounds like you assumed they would know to come home if the friend wasn't there - granted the 9 yr old may be somewhat manipulative). And when the rules are broken, they don't need to have all those dolls, gameboys and other toys to play with while the 9 year old is grounded (you can't put this on the 5 yr old).
Out of curiousity, do you really think a 9 year old is responsible enough to be taking a 5 year old to a friends house?
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2006-09-05 13:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off with taking controll over the child, by telling her "no" and making sure she understand what will happen if she does not listen to you. Then take away the things she likes to do the most (T.V, gameboy, no radio.) . send her to her room, with her door shut, make her read a book, work on homework. Let her only come out is she has to use the bathroom, and eat dinner. (that means when she gets home from school, to her room no question asked.) remember you are the adult in the house, and if she is going to try and override your rules, then she will have to learn that (like in life), there is a price to pay.
I have 2 girls myself, and I set rules early in life. They know that when i say "no", thats the end of the topic. It is going to be hard, but stick to your guns and don't back down.
Reward her for the times she does listen and mind you, but dont take away a punishment you have set.
2006-09-05 14:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by luv2wubsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a 16 year old sister who hangs out with 9 year olds. So I can say that its not always that bad. Just get to know the girl and see what she's like. As for the part about going into neighbors yards there is one punishment I had as a kid that I still remember to this day. It worked on my in the terrible twos so-
Next time one of your daughters misbehaves make a circle on the wall about an inch higher then there nose. This will be there time out. Tell them to stand there for ten minutes (or however long you want) with there nose in the circle. This way they have to stand on their toes. If they put there ankles down add a minute to there punishment. This seriously works, its very uncomfortable and it makes the kid think twice before misbehvaing. Believe me I was subject to this for a half hour once- never drew on walls again...
2006-09-05 13:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by sondra j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ground them, take away forms of entertainment including non-educational books (IE, they are books that are not for school). Once they start behaving respectfully and understand your rules are law, grant their privileges back.
2006-09-05 14:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋