IM 30 AND IVE BEEN DATEING SOMEONE FOR THREE MONTHS NOW AND EVERY THING WAS GOING GREAT UNTIL SHE BEGAN TURNING ME DOWN FOR SEX.ITS BEEN ABOUT 3 OR 4 TIMES NOW.AT THE 4TH TIME WE HAD A LITTLE ARGUMENT.I TOLD HER SEX IS A REAL BIG ISSUE FOR ME AND SHE INFORMED ME SHE IS NOT AN EVERY DAY SEX TYPE OF PERSON.WHERE AS I AM,PROB 3 OR 4 X ADAY.SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE NEVER HEARD OF ANYTHING LIKE THAT MAYBE IN H.S. BUT NOT AT OUR AGE.ALL HER FRIENDS TELL HER THAT IM THE ONE W ISSUES.I DONT WANT TO CHEAT I REALLY CARE FOR HER BUT I FEEL LIKE IF THIS IS THE WAY IT IS NOW HOW IS IT GOING TO GET ANY BETTER.I HAVE NEVER HAD A PROBLEM W ANY OF MY PREVIOUS WOMEN W HOW MUCH I WANT IT.AND IVE NEVER HAD A PROB W SATISFYIING A WOMAN.AND TO TOP IT OFF SHE TOLD ME IN HER LAST RELATIONSHIP SHE DID IT EVERY DAY THAT WAS 6 YEARS AGO.REASON BEING SHE NEVER HAD ANYTHING TO DO AND THEY WOULD DO THAT.AT THIS POINT IM SO DISSAPOINTED EVERYTHING WAS PERFECT BETWEEN US UNTIL THIS.WHAT CAN I DO IS IT JUST GONNA GETWORSE
2006-09-05 06:40:39 · 30 answers · asked by FORCED ABSTINENCE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, get a job..... you've got way too much time on your hands.... now to fix the sex every day thing..... WHACK OFF! You can't expect a girl to drop everything and hump you on demand... you've got a hand... USE IT
2006-09-05 06:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I would love a man who can please me so much like u do. But lets forget about me and get back with u.... So lets see.... U say u been with her for the past three months right? Seriously don't u think that she might think that u only what her for sex?. Think a bout it... If some one wanted that every day i would think the same thing. She might just be insecure, i think u need to understand her point of view, maybe she needs u to be there for her in other ways not only sex. Now don't get me wrong sex is a huge part of a relationship, but its not everything. U just need to let her know that ur for real and that see means the world to u. Things will get better ull see, I also think that if u let her know u were like this from the beginning, she should understand ur needs as well u need to understand her needs. U just have to find a meeting point on ur relationship. A point were u are sexually comfortable and she emotionally. I hope u guys work things out. Sometimes u have to make sacrifices for the ones u love, its not always "me, me, me" hope u understand what i mean. Good luck and u know u can count on me.. bey
Yours Truly
Twilight
2006-09-05 13:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're already contemplating cheating, you should just break up.
You're perfect relationship is already in the toilette.
No offense, but if this is your only problem with her, and you've only been together for 3 months, you're doomed.
I'd probably feel the same way about you if I were her. If I felt that the only thing you want or need from me is sex, I probably wouldn't feel all that sexy. Seems to me that you placed all of you're relationship "eggs", in the "sex" basket. You should probably have invested some time in making her feel important for her other attributes.
I think sex is a big issue for everybody, not just you. Pardon me for saying so, but you sound a little selfish. There must be some reason why she turns you down, other than the quota excuse you got. I think that if you really want to fix things you should work on your communication skills, and try to listen to her. You should also find other ways to express your feelings for her.
Demanding sex daily, as a condition to being your girlfriend is sort of rude.
You seem ceratin that it's just going to get worse, so, honestly, I think it might be best, for her, if you'd just dump her now.
In the future, you may want to discuss your sex everyday rule with potential girlfriends so that they can decide whether or not they have the ability to follow that, before you both decide to commit to a relationship.
Good luck
2006-09-05 14:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, if you care about her like you say, you won't cheat on her. Instead try to find out why she isn't an "everyday kinda girl" with you but was with the ex. She might have some underlying emotional issues with you that she is afraid to discuss. So instead of talking to you, she's pushing you away. Find out what that is, help her with it, and I can almost guarantee the sex will return. Just remember to stay calm with her while she tells you or you might as well forget getting it again until she's ready. As you know that could be a long while.
In the mean time, don't cheat or you'll be done. Instead bring out the lotion (or whatever works for you) and get your hand busy. If that won't do, then you have a choice to make. Suffer through it or leave. Just don't disrespect her by cheating. Good luck!!
2006-09-05 13:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both of you should take a deep breath and try to figure out "how to make each other happy". it seems to me you asking her to have 3 or 4 times a day is a little much. once a day would be good sprinkled in with some multiple days. she, on the other hand, should not make it such an issue if she enjoys the sex. her friends or your friends getting involved and giving their opinions is a mistake on this issue as well as most any couple's issue.
let me give you a statistic to kind of give you a guideline to realize women do not crave sex like men. married couples average 1 1/2 times a week.
my concern here is she is already making this an issue so it can only get tougher unless she is willing to work at an ENJOYABLE SOLUTION!
i have an old saying "girlfriends have very very very few votes and wives have them all"!
remember, all women know they have the greatest weapon of all and ALL of them use it!
i wouldn't go to the trouble of cheating, it would just make you look bad. if you can't work it out then kiss her on the cheek and ride into the sunset!
could she be cheating?
i repeat 3 or 4 times a day is a bit much on an everyday bases.
good luck!!!!!!!!
2006-09-05 13:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by lou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really think the world resolves around only YOU. Give it up. a relationship is give and take and hormones are differnt in men and women You show little class and that you only care of your penis and not about her feelings and body at all.
If you are in a relationship for sex then find sex friends and do not have a girlfriend. If you want a real relationship then open those eyes of oyurs to see others needs and wants not just your want of sex.
you act like a 16 year old with the way yuo just talked and by the way my spouse and i are both 30 and he considers 3 to 4 times a week reasonable for both of us.
2006-09-05 13:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love sex as much as the next guy but if I had Pizza every day I'd get sick of that too. If this is a real need see a counselor if not than enjoy all the other things your girl has to offer. I lost the major love of my life on this issue years ago and it wasn't worth it cause even though the sex was great she had a whole lot more to offer.
2006-09-05 13:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly why I'm single. I hate guys like you. Guys like you make it out to be that sex is the only thing that is important in a relationship. "I have never had a problem with any of my previous women with how much I want it". Well good for you, go back to them then. Like who the fu*k do you really think you are. If your girl don't want it everyday accept that, you're not the only one in the relationship, it's not only your needs.
She should just get rid of your selfish a$$. Do her the favour and just leave so you can fu*k everyday of the hour. You nasty fu*k.
2006-09-05 13:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jamacaray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean that because she does not want to have sex everyday it has something to do with you. She might just be tired. And it could be true that she did it everyday in her last relationship because she had nothing else to do. When you get busy in life sometimes it is just hard to get up the energy for sex all the time. I mean if it bothers you and you cant deal with you, you might have to leave, but really just like you want her to understand you, you should understand her. There has to be some kind of compromise.
2006-09-05 13:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey... dont feel let down.... havng sex with another women does not mean you are cheating on her..... Dont confuse love and sex. being affectionate, caring are some great feeling you have for her. But sex for you is more of a physical activity to get rid of tensions you might have had during the day.... So tell her all this and ball somebody who wants to get balled.
2006-09-05 13:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by suresh s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a clue. You should't even be doing it all before you're married (which probably never occurred to you), let alone every day like a certain animal that wallows in a trough.
All of you guys answering in support of this man and who are against the woman are equally as bad. Oh yes, I'm a man, by the way and not boys like you.
2006-09-05 13:45:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋