My little tomboy...?

Question

I was just wondering about something, my 6 year old daughter is and has always been quite the tomboy..she wears spiderman shirts and boy shirts that she likes. She also wore boy underwear for a few years because she liked them. She doesn't anymore though. Not sure why she just grew out of that part. Some of the people in my life tell me I'm doing harm by letting her be herself, I mean we have the deal that I pick out her clothes on school days and she can change when she gets home but I've had people tell me just not to buy her the things she likes...I'm the kind of mother that lets her children show her who they are instead of imposing my own beliefs and views on her. I don't think there is anything wrong with it...My question is do any other mother's or father's have these super tomboys?? Do they grow out of it? And have you faced criticism for your decisions??

Answer 1

I think it's wonderful that you are letting your child be herself. This is going to teach her independence and this is a very rare thing is girls today. I applaud you for this.

As for growing out of it...she very well could. Kids go through different stages and like/dislike different things. I'm sure you can think of things you liked as a child that you dont anymore.

Again I say bravo for letting her be who she chooses to be. I think you'll be glad you did.

Answer 2

I have a girly girl, but I was a tomboy. I played with cars and did all the things the neighbor boys did. My parents never stopped me. They let me grow up to be who I was. When I was old enough to drive, I got an old car. I worked on it by myself or with Dad's help. To this day, I can still work on a car if I need to. It came in handy when I got a flat tire on the interstate and nobody stopped to help. I've become a very strong and independant woman because my parents let me be who I was. I have a hubby in the Army and I'm often on my own to take care of the house and cars. It was beneficial to me, in so many ways. My daughter is a girly girl, but still likes to play with cars. I encourage it fully. There's nothing wrong with it. Kids grow and develop through different areas. It helps them become who they are.

Keep doing what you're doing. Tell your friends and family if they don't like it, they don't have to come around any more. Let your daughter grow up to be who she is. Especially if she's happy. In some ways, I've never outgrown it, but I do love to put on a gown and go to a military ball and be a princess for a night. She might not out grow it either, then again, she might. She just might learn to enjoy the best of both worlds. If you're alright with it and she's happy, let it be. It works for her and what anyone else thinks doesn't really matter.

Answer 3

Who cares what other people say or even think. Your being a GREAT mom by letting your daughter be independent and make her own choices. So many parents are afraid there children will embarrass them. My sister, who is now 12, always was a tomboy. Her favorite color was blue and she hated pink stuff especially clothes. She still wears more blue than pink but there is nothing wrong with that its her personality. Even if your daughter never grows out of it, she will always love you for allowing her to be herself. Keep doing what your doing. Clothes and looks arent important anyway. If you have a kind smart loving child then thats all that matters

Answer 4

I was a tomboy as a child. I wore dresses to school and then wore jeans when I got home. I had short hair. I wanted to be a boy. I remember wearing my cowboy boots to church one day. I was made fun of and it hurt. Just the other day I saw a little girl wearing a dress with cowboy boots. She was adorable and I told her so. In this day and age everything seems ok,you know.
My sister was just the opposite....long hair,very feminine.
I am now a 57 year old. I love being a woman. I love men. I am perfectly normal. My parents let me be what I wanted to be,as a kid. I love them for it.

Answer 5

She'll grow out of it eventually. I was a major tomboy chased my sisters with frogs snakes worms you name it. My daughter is a bit of a tomboy but she has to have her certain clothes she likes, like Mary Kate & Ashley. And other times shes up in a tree or chasing a frog. Let your daughter be herself she will grow out of it. Then the next thing you know she will be the most beautiful bride you ever seen.

Answer 6

My friend is 13 years old. When she was little she would wear boy clothes. She would even wear boy swimsuits with tshirts. She had even said that when she grew up she wanted to be a boy. It wasnt like she was never around girls. She had many girl cousins older than her, and her age that were fairly girlie. At one point her mom would put her in frilly dresses, but she did not like it at all!! she would yell and scream until she could put her spider man tshirts and jean shorts back on and play in the mud. But now that she is 13, she is one of the girlie-est girls that i know. She likes to curl her hair and wear skirts and put make up on. She i more girlie than and average girl.

So just let your daurght be herself.

Answer 7

Poo on what everyone else says. You do with her what you feel is best for her. I think what you are doing is great!

My 5.5 year old daughter is a tom boy. She likes Harley's, Mudding, 4-wheeling, and always wears a ball cap. She went from long hair to chin length and giggles when she wears her hat and people think she's a boy.

She knows she's a girl, she just enjoys things besides dolls, barbies and makeup. (She was never into those things)

So as long as she is socially healthy (like still has friends, etc...) I think you are doing a fine job, mammy!

Answer 8

you are doing the RIGHT THING. You are letting your girl be herself. Shame on anyone trying to tell you that's it's wrong to do so. My sister and I were both super tomboys. We were raised mostly by our father, and we were heavily into hunting, fishing, camping, and we kept snakes and lizards as pets.. NO JOKE. And, both of us came out of it fine. I am happily married with a son, my sister is engaged and seems happy and well adjusted. And, neither of us are sissy girls! Which, I think is a great thing!

Answer 9

I deal with kind of the opposite. My youngest son loves to play with dolls. Bratz to be specific. He asked for one for his birthday one year (he was turning 4) and I bought it. His uncles, and a few other male relatives have all said I'm going to make him gay. I don't think that. If he wants to play with dolls, I'll buy him dolls. I'm not going to force Tonka trucks and GI Joes on him because that's what society dictates he plays with. (He plays with trucks and GI Joes as well.) I say if he's going to be gay, he's going to be gay. Nothing I say or do will change that, so why not make him a happy kid and let him play with the toys he wants to play with? Besides, he's discovered skateboarding now (he turned 8 in July), so he doesn't play with his dolls as much anymore.

I say it's just a phase, and there's nothing wrong with it. Letting your daughter dress how she wants to is absolutely fine. You're teaching her that it's okay to do what you want and to be yourself. Kudos to you for being a fantastic parent!!

Answer 10

She's six years old! Let the kid enjoy life. Forget whet your neighborhood Dr. Spock's tell you. I think you've got a perfect balance. If you push too hard you'll get the opposite of what you push for.