I have become good friends with a person with obsessive compulsive disorder. She can go off on people that are unfair and self-serving. At first I was concerned that she would get angry at me for telling her that perhaps her behavior was overboard. Well, guess what? She listens to me and I listen to her opinions also. She has been a good friend to me.
We both live in the same apartment building and she fought for her civil rights to have a service dog. She won, for the simple fact that the manager of my apartment was violating people's rights.
Now people are associating me with her because we hang out. She has remembered my birthday when other's did not. She always takes time out to listen to me. Other people in the apartment building--which have never given me the kind of respect and friendship that this woman does--now are judging me. My thinking is that I can be friends with whoever I want and they can go to hell! I'm asking you if you would continue being friends or?
2006-09-05 06:33:34 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is one person in particular who is so judgmental of me that she will not even speak to me. I live in an apartment that is suppose to be a 'community', but I don't see it.
2006-09-05 06:35:04 · update #1
The woman with OCD has been a true friend to you. Tell the judgmental ones to kiss both of your asses.
2006-09-05 07:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the people you hang out with arent such good people, and by you hanging out with that person makes you like them.. or so it seems in others eyes. Even if you think that person is great, and like hanging out with them. You trust your gut on that one.
And not everyone has agreed to be a 'community' when living in an apartment building. They arent always going to be happy with everyone.. It's like a family, you get mad and make up..
You seem like you are a great person, don't let others keep you from having good friends, if they were your friends, they would try to get along with your other friends... Sorry there is drama. Good Luck
2006-09-05 06:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what people think? Does it effect your way of life or ability to earn a living? If not then don't be so concerned about how other view you. Just look at President Bush. He definately does not care what people think - right?
If your feelings of friendship are so strong to this other person - then join their causes and stand by them. Don't try to distance yourself. That is not a true friend. If you cannot handle the attention - then nicely explain yourself to your friend. But she will probably and deservedly tell you to bug off.
2006-09-05 06:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't know any better. I was in a sorority in college, and everyone thought that I would suddenly become a big partier, drunk, slut, whatever. I didn't have my first drink until I was about to turn 21, and am still saving myself for marriage. I lost a lot of people that I was friends with in our school's Fellowship of Christian Athletes, etc.
Any of your friends that judge you based on who you hang out with or who else you are friends with aren't your friends in the first place.
2006-09-05 06:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't be bothered by what people think, it can't rule your world or influence your decisions.
If that person is your friend, they won't act as the one who won't speak to you has.
If you are doing what you want, let the other stuff go. Send positive energy to that person that is so negative and if it doesn't bother you, they will move on to someone else.
2006-09-05 07:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Growing up, my stepfather used to tell us, "show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are." You have the right to be friends with whoever you want, however, people reserve the right to their opinions. It sounds like she is a nice person and I wouldn't stop being friends with her because of what aquaintances think.
2006-09-05 07:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by jtj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because who you hang around with is a reflection of who and what you are. In the example you give, it is the other people's problem, so you shouldn't worry about it.
2006-09-06 04:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! This person seems to be a kind and caring person who enjoys your company. Let others judge. You do the right thing.
Chow!!
2006-09-05 06:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by No one 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ppl associate you wit ur friends cuz thats who you usually hang out wit. you will start to rub off on her, and she will start to rub off on you. that happens. as for the community living, its always bs. i hope it starts to go better for you. it sounds like she is a really good friend and i hope you wouldnt jus stop hangin out wit her cuz of what other ppl think.
2006-09-05 06:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by micalou1735 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Dad would not let me run around with 'bad kids' as a child - he always said "You are who you hang with." and that really is the truth.
Lie down with dogs - get up with fleas
2006-09-05 06:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋