I like this girl, and I am now 100% sure she likes me. I am currently friends with her, and we are getting closer everyday. We now share our secrets and spend a lot of time alone. We are soon going to be dancing partners. My question is should I ask her out. My problem is that I dont think her parents would allow it. She is 18, and I am four years older myself. Our families are good friends and spend a lot of time together, and I know her family likes me a lot. She is going to college, but she is not leaving for two years. We are getting closer all the time, and before long I will have to confront this one way or another. What should I do?
2006-09-05 06:28:54 · 24 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like her and she likes you then go for it.
She is of legal age for you to date so what is the problem?
If yall fall in love then she can just change which college she will attend, or you can go to the state she is attending college and get a job there.
With her being 18 then this is a decision between the two of you. Not the 6 of you. ( I'm counting her two parents, your two parents and the two of you)
I sincerely hope that things work out for yall as you sound like a very good couple, like yall are a good match.
God bless.
2006-09-05 12:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, tell her your feelings. She's old enough and you have the respect for her. If you really want to see her in a dating mode, do the old fashion thing, ask her parents for permission (but kinda let her know first so it wont embarrase her too much). At least her parents know you come from a good family, right!
2006-09-05 13:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to have a heart to heart talk with her .. about your feelings and see where things lead. She is not a adult as well .. needless to say if you are worried about the parents then do the old fashion way - ask for permission. Good luck
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-05 13:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if you guys like each other then to hell with what your families think! Don't let your families dictate who you date b/c you might end up missing out on something good. So I say ask her out I'm sure your family will be OK with it. After all shes 18 and they can't do anything about it. If its love then age is just a number!
2006-09-05 13:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mallory 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her how you feel , if you dont you will regret it . Its not her parents life you should be worried about but instead your own . You sound like a person who has thought about this a lot , all you can do is ask her and see how it goes , best of luck
2006-09-05 13:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like this girl and you know for sure that she is feeling you, then go for it. But if you feel her parents will have a problem with ya'll dating, then the best thing is to talk with them and let them know how you feel about her. I think that you will gain their respect if you come and talk with them first. And you never know they might approve of ya'll dating, since ya'll family are close.
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-05 13:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by maleka2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is more important than a relationship where more feelings get involved. Keep her as a friend, and follow your heart. Nothing has to be written in stone between the two of you, just play it by ear, and do what comes naturally to ya. Good luck!
2006-09-05 13:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are worried about her family not approving because you are four years older then her I wouldn't worry to much it's not that big of a gap. you should go for it. if there is a connection i wouldn't let it pass....you never know if you'll get the chance to meet some one you connect with like this again.
2006-09-05 14:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whats the problem...when was the last time an 18 year old girl actually listened to her parents? Also...college is 2 years away, take it day by day, whose to say you guys will even last that long (just being realistic)...just go for it!
2006-09-05 13:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by tuffness9999 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're families are good friends, and her parents like you, there should be no problem with the age difference.
I've dated guys who are 6 years older than me, and my parents understand. That might be because my parents are 12 years apart, but whatever.
Just talk to her, and tell her how you feel. If your families are that close, they'll understand and problem welcome the idea.
2006-09-05 13:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by nowimrelaxedicantbesure 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋