I recently read that when someone says NO to you (romantically) is just an opinion and you shouldn't take it personally. But you can't help feeling rejected nevertheless, and worst of all that changes you and the way you react to others. What can you do to turn rejection in just another part of life, without leaving major scares?
Any help?
2006-09-05 06:18:32 · 6 answers · asked by cifurtrue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I use to get upset over things like that. But I have realized that almost everything happens for a reason. I would just think that if you ask somebody out and they say no, then it would not have worked out anyway. The reason may be that you are soon going to meet the one that is right for you. Plus always getting what you one is not possible, so it will help you to grow and make it that much easier next time it happens.
2006-09-05 06:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection hurts, its hurts like hell sometimes. In fact it bites a lot. Yes, its a part of life and you shouldn't take it personally. Obviously when is you're rejected you look to yourself to see whats wrong or you try to figure out what went wrong. Thing is, you can discover untold things about yourself when you do deep searching that stems from rejection. Just last week I got dumped, I was in tears for the entire day and I kept trying to figure out what I did wrong, said wrong or what was wrong with me. I didn't get answers, so I was pissed the next day. Thing was I did learn something and that whether someone rejects or hurts you, you are the one that has to make yourself feel happy and be complete. The second you start looking to someone else to fulfill certain needs like happiness, completeness, desirability and all that, you'll be disappointed. You need to accept yourself, sure you can change certain things about yourself but the truth is to be happy with yourself and be confident about yourself no matter what anyone says or do. You are your own person, God made you the way you are and you're special. Its normal to do some soul searching now and then but if you've learned something from an experience no matter how painful, don't regret it or be bitter about it. Everything happens for the reason. Just accept it and move on.
2006-09-05 13:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol, and find another chick, lol
Seriously though remember that when you like someone you haven't gone out with yet is someone you do not know. It is based only on looks.
When you see a person in a club, or at school, them mall ,etc. and you think damn they are hot. And you go and ask them out. You are asking out only the looks of the person. Also you have unknowingly placed all the things you want in your perfect mate onto that person. In your mind on some level this good looking (or whatever attracted you to them) person has had all your ideals placed upon them. When rejected just remember that you did not know their personality at the time and they could have been a real jerk and by them rejecting you you just dodged a bullet
2006-09-05 13:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you get rejected then say oh well its your lost and then you
go fine someone else
2006-09-05 13:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep movin' on, don't think about the girl....obviously she wasn't the one for you. Brush it off and learn from it what happen.
2006-09-05 13:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by curious George 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone who wont reject you
2006-09-05 13:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋