i broke up with my bf 4 months ago and i really want to move on but i can't everytime i think about it i cry for days and i don't know it's making me delusional and it's hard when i don't have anyone to help me through it and i really am trying to help myself what do you think my problem is????and plz no crazy answers just honest one if you don't like this question don't answer plz...
2006-09-05 05:56:25 · 18 answers · asked by USAF1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you have put your heart, soul and body into a relationship you can't just scrape it off like gum under your shoe. It does take time to start over again. Allow yourself that much. Right now you're feeling sorry for yourself. You may feel like a failure. You probably continue to ask yourself "why". Your emotions have not released you from this dead situation. Your heart and soul are still attached even though your body isn't. Get by yourself. Get in a mirror and tell yourself that this relationship is over and today is a new day for a new me. Take some deep breaths. Clean house of all the old stuff. Then get dressed up and go out with people who love and care for you. If you can't find somebody to go with, go by yourself! Get out of the house. Join a group. The more you do this, the better your recovery. Take it from one who knows.
2006-09-05 06:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by meillee44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to have these feelings; you spent a lot of time with this guy and he was basically a part of you. Now that you guys are no longer together, it has left an empty space in yourself and you don't know how to coup. What you need to do is realize that the two of you have separated and it was probably the right thing to happen. There are a lot of guys out there who would love to spend time with you and although you might not be ready to start a relation with another guy, you can at least start to meet new people to help fill the void. If you have a hard time meeting new people through work or friends; try going online like myspace.com or match.com and meet some new people.
2006-09-05 13:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're hurting, that's the deal.... just like physical wounds, emotional wounds leave scars too..... all meaningful relationships have baggage, there's always going to be that moment where you see something that reminds you of that one time you and him did whatever, or someone will say something and you think oh, he used to say that, or you'll smell a cologne that he wore and think of him. It's normal. And, in time, those memories will get fewer and far away. Doesn't mean you won't think of him now and again. For now, just remind yourself why you broke up with him in the first place. Concentrate on yourself. What do you need to accomplish right now for you? (i.e. focus on school... focus on a career... goals... etc) Go out for yourself. Get yourself a new outfit, new shoes, new hair cut, or whatever... this is your time.... you'll make it through
2006-09-05 13:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes time to open your heart again. Trust me in this do not rush going into a new relationship because the only thing you will find is more pain. In case you do not get my meaning there is nothing wrong with you many people have gone through break ups and felt the same way
2006-09-05 13:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by momof4 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many of us have been there, hun... it just takes time. If you really cared about him, 4 months is not that long to grieve. Also, some people just don't get over things as quickly as others.
I don't think you have a problem other than you're sensitive. Give yourself a bit more time. There's no rush.
Good luck to you :)
2006-09-05 13:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is best to get on with your life and live your life as a single person for awhile. It should give you time to think about what you really want and how you want it. Time to yourself is always best!! Then when your ready go out and enjoy life. The right guy will walk into your life and you will know when he is the right one!! Good Luck!
2006-09-05 13:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's ok hun, you will get over him, you just need time, he obviously made a big impact in your life, don't think about dating at all at the moment, think about yourself, and if you meet a guy, that you like, take it from there, but don't push yourself to move along, it makes it worse, and plus, you never know, the one you end up with, could be closer than you think.
2006-09-05 13:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rosalind S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been told it takes at least 3 months for every year you were together. But in reality only time can help. It's hard but you have to get out and try to have some fun!
2006-09-05 13:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl, when one door closes one more opens! Look at it from different prospectives, you are free to do what you want. What if that perfect guy comes around and you are taken? Go out have fun with life do things you like to do. Has you ex gotten over you yet?
2006-09-05 13:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by denise r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only cure for breakups. It's different for everybody. Just make sure it's not taking over your life. I would say get your friends together and jsut go have some fun when you can. Good luck!
2006-09-05 13:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Paige 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋