i've been with my boyfriend for 4-1/2 years and i'm still not sure if he's the one for me. should i know by now. hasn't it been long enough. do you think if i'm not sure by know than maybe he's not the one or should i wait longer?
2006-09-05 05:11:56 · 15 answers · asked by sexy-cecy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not too long, but you should certainly know SOME things by now. Not to push you along, but you DO realize that every minute you spend with the wrong person is one less minute you can spend with the right person. So, do some figuring on your own...
2006-09-05 05:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, all relationships take time! I was in mine for 6 years and now found out he isnt the one. As time goes, people change!Some are lucky to already find their soul mates or Mr. Right. If u think u want to take time ask him if he feels the same?! Maybe u two can take time away and experience others, try talking it over with him first. Its all up to u, and 4 1/2 years is not long some people do for 10 - 20 years until they think that the person was the one. So sit down with him and talk it out and see how he feels about it to! Good LUCK!
2006-09-05 05:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 11:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw it ain't right to be with nobody that long and not know if its the one for u. I been in a relationship for 4 1/2 years an she the one. I found that out in a year.
2006-09-05 05:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by D-Lyte Jr. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, in some circumstances, this answer might depend on your age. How old are you anyway? Many people meet a partner while they are still in school (middle or high school) and haven't had enough experiences in their own life to determine where they want to go and what type of person they want to go there with. You should take it easy on yourself....you don't have to have it all figured out already. Give yourself the freedom to decide what is best for yourself. And don't feel obligated to be with this person because you have been with them since .... You might very well love them, but have you had enough experiences with love to know what it is and is not? I am only posing these questions for you to ask yourself. Of course I do not know you or your partner and am only making suggestions based on your question.
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tharedhead
2006-09-05 05:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by tharedhead ((debajo del ombú)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 1/2 years why aren't you sure?
2006-09-05 05:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by SVW 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you're not for sure, maybe ya'll need to take some time apart and see how you feel then. And time apart means a month or two. Not a day or two. Go out with the girls and have a good time and see how that goes. If you enjoy the time w/o him, then you have your answer
2006-09-05 05:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say either he is not the one, or not the one at this present time. If he was the one, I would say that you'd know by now. If you do not feel that, I'd suggest evaluating why you are still in this relationship, and possibly even move on.
2006-09-05 05:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time away. If you are meant to be you will be drawn back to each other. The time away will help you decide if he is the one. You need time to think.
2006-09-05 05:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by barney3076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"When in doubt walk away honey" don't waste another 4.5 years on this relationship! Don't wait because you will be unhappy for another 4.5 years inwhich you could of been with someone that really could make you happy!
2006-09-05 05:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by btinawill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋