He really stresses out over money an that he cant afford to give me a big one, even though i told him that i dont care about anything as long as hes there and i can show every one and him that i love him and that im serious about it, do you think its a gd idea to surprise him??
2006-09-05 04:49:39 · 54 answers · asked by GeorgieP 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well you say organize....i think that would be great that you plan and say look what i did and if he wants to add or take away some things that is great, but if it is hey look what i did, we are getting married today, that is different. I have known of only one bride who did that and it did tur out great, but i have no idea how the groom felt about it.
2006-09-05 04:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by sweet serinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad Idea plus it's a logistical nightmare. At the very least, you need him to be aware of his tuxedo (or whatever he is wearing) because it will need to fit him properly. The other thing is that when the response cards arrive he will undoubtedly see them and ask what is happening and let's not forget that he will need to book the day off of work too. However, I think if you can do some planning and show him how inexpensively you can do it, then it will be easier for him to get into the whole idea of the wedding. There are a lot of grooms out there that won't get involved with the planning so it is normally the bride that takes care of it but don't make it a complete surprise either because, you never know, he may have some ideas himself.
2006-09-05 07:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a nice thought and all, but I would say no to the idea of a surprise wedding. While you may think guys do not care what happens at the wedding, that is very far from the truth. Most men do care what happens at their own wedding..including all the details. I would just throw cheap ideas out for your fiancee...maybe to alleviate the financial pressure on him. That should do the trick.
2006-09-05 04:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should surprise him. You are both adults, if you are concerned with the way he would handle the pressure of planning a wedding, god help you when you are married and paying bills together, saving for your children's education, and saving for your retirement. Marriage is full of stress, and learning how to deal with that stress either makes or breaks you as a couple. Talk about your finances, decide exactly how much you can afford on a wedding, and then stick to that budget. If you are planning on marrying, you will have many stressful decisions ahead of you. Rely on each other for support, and the details will work themself out.
2006-09-05 06:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a really bad idea. Are you two even engaged? He may want to do certain things before the wedding-go to counseling, etc. and this would not let him do it. You might also be surprised-he might want to have a big say in the wedding plans and once his family finds out that you two are engaged they might want to have a say in the wedding plans. Definately think this over before doing it!
2006-09-05 05:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. You want to be in this together. Planning a wedding is a really big time commitment, and you wouldn't be able to surprise him unless you started ignoring him all the time. Just work on it together and be patient. It's not only about you. Believe it or not, guys have been anticipating that day as little boys almost as much as we have as little girls. Let him be part of it!
2006-09-05 04:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by it's me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most countries a marriage is not legal unless BOTH the bride and groom applyfor a marriage liscence/schedule before the wedding. There would be no way of doing this legally without telling your boyfriend. Some countries might only require the permission of one party but I dont know of anywhere. So its probably not possible legally even if you wanted to do this.
2006-09-06 12:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by IwishicoulddeleteYahooAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise weddings are seldom a good idea. You could, however, surprise him by secretly "upgrading" something in the wedding that you're planning together, or surprise him with a honeymoon.
By the way, fiance=a man, fiancee=a woman.
2006-09-05 18:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope so because i am doing the same for my partner just so that he has no pressure. Just a simple, low key, family only wedding outdoors with our own words just as it should be. Big weddings are for other people but you don't need to have a big expensive wedding to show that you love each other good luck congrats and have a lovely day x
2006-09-05 14:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by the strange one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly suggest that you do not do this. It is good that you want to surprise him and that you are that much in love, but that is something that you both have a say in.You are both getting married you cant just spring that on some one. I suggest you speak to him and let him know exactly how u feel and what you want, make him understand that all you need is him. But don't surprise him with a wedding this might hurt his ego guys want to thinks that women depend on them and up to a certain point you should let them believe that some times. let him please you.
2006-09-05 04:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋