We have been seeing each other for almost 2 years and have not gotten any closer. I have been pushing lately for us to move forward and maybe spend some weekends together. He is 50 & I am 45, so we are not teenagers, and this is not the first rodeo for either of us. He does not tell his friends of me. I think he is afraid for them to meet me because I am overweight. Part of me says it should end, but another part really loves and wants to be with him. He has never said anything bad about my weight, and our sex life is excellent. But lately he has no time for me, and has stood me up twice, and has borrowed money from me and not paid it back. Gosh looking at this maybe we should end it? My head says we should, but my heart just won't let me. HELP!!
2006-09-05 04:41:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The one thing I have learned is when someone wanted to have a heart to heart with me it was always serious. I'm not saying that this is something bad for you, because I want things to work out. I have to ask why do you want to be with a man that is ashamed of you? Just because he doesn't say anything about your weight doesn't mean that he's not thinking this. It really sounds like he's using you for sex more than anything. He never has time to spend with you unless it's sex, he stands you up and doesn't really go anywhere with you, and then he borrows money from you without giving it back. He's trying to play you and it's wrong. Let him go before you find yourself deeper into this and feeling a lot worse. Let this go now while you have the heart to let it go. Get a man that wants to be seen with you. Get a man that will want to show you off to family and friends without being ashamed of it. Do you really want a man that is ashamed of you? There are plenty of women like you that are heavier, but that doesn't mean you can't get a man that thinks your beautiful and wants to show the world how much he adores and cares for you. You deserve a prince charming and you have to know that you deserve this type of man. The heart is hard to control it will have a person doing things they would never find themselves doing or putting up with, but you have to do what's smart and what's right for your future and the long run. You have to look at the bigger picture with this. Your not happy, but your trying to convince yourself otherwise. He's making no effort with this relationship. If he doesn't care to make an effort then please let it go. There is a good man out here waiting for you to come and get him. He's out there and you'll meet him. I can almost guarantee that. Be persistant and never lose faith. Be positive and you will see positive. I wish you the best!!!
2006-09-05 05:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it seems to me that things have been over for quite some time, from his perspective. Now it's time for you to start thinking about you. Direct your energies in a positive direction; if losing weight has been something you've always wanted to do, then let's get started. Face it, this man wants out and in the long run, he may be doing you a favor by leaving. I wish you all the best and as painful as things may be in the beginning, it will get better. Take care!
2006-09-05 04:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i am not 45, but i can throw soemthing at you. I think in any relationship you should be happy, mental and physically. Even though you love this guy so much, maybe you should consider that there are other kinds of "love" to experience. Money wise, you shouldn't be thinking about that situation. but still think about why it bothers you. Like you think it doesn't bother you, but it obviously does, in the question. So, i think the best thing for you to do is to move out, and Stay with him..but have your place, and keep distant for awhile..kay?
2006-09-05 04:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by Punk_Rockin' Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with him and talk. If it is meant to be then it will be, if not then you will be better off. Talk to the lord and ask him to help you deal with this whole sitiuation . Wish I had better advice for you. Good Luck. Maybe you talking will do you and him both a would of good.
2006-09-05 04:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe and verbal substitute look your subject concerns. I went to couples counseling with my gf as quickly as we've been 20 and it helped, gave us equipment to end the petty bickering. maximum suitable of success to you!
2016-10-01 08:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Worried - coz you know what ?? he is a guy, thats the most important reason to be worried
2006-09-05 04:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Red Dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is seeking to sit down and talk about the current relationship
relax and well prepare ur self with questions for him and answers for him
2006-09-05 04:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hear him out, maybe he wants to get more serious. and if it is a negative talk, forget him, you deserve better. only you know what you really want
2006-09-05 04:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be prepared for bad news.
2006-09-05 04:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as your legs will carry you
2006-09-05 04:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋