I have known this girl for 2 years. She is my best friend, but I'm feeling more distant from her recently. Over the summer we hung out about once or twice a week and would spend the whole together (with other friends aswell). Then she got a bf. That didnt effect how often we hung out but obviously I wasnt getting the most attention from her anymore, thats ok, its not what I'm wondering about here. But in school now, we dont talk much, maybe 5 passing one minute convos while waiting for a class. We have mostly the same classes too so we do have the chances. I dont think it has anything to do with her bf either because she doesnt hang around with him in school. I assume so that kids dont start rumors and stuff. But anyway, I want to know why, after spending so much time together before, and texting each other alot and telling each other our problems. Why does she not talk to me as much now? What can I do? I will be spending time with her alone (or with her friend there aswell) tomorrow.
2006-09-05 04:34:07 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should ask her what's going on...? I did that to one of my friends and I didn't even realize that I was doing it until he said something... I had so much stuff on my mind.... I hope you can figure it out..
2006-09-05 04:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun. Its hard. You've been there for her all that time as a real soulmate and now her circumstances have changed you've kind of been put on a back burner... That hurts a little. She'll snap out of it. Maybe she's really preoccupied with her new relationship? Maybe there are problems that she doesn't want to talk to anyone about and wants to sort out in her own head? Have you tried arranging some time on your own where you can be honest about being unhappy about spending such little time? If that's not possible perhaps you can write her a note in school or an email and say that you're happy about her bf etc. but that you worry about your friendship and feel less close to her and you want to do something about that. Maybe she feel isolated too and just hasn't told you?
Good luck.
2006-09-05 04:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Placebo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the fact, that she doesn't want to start rumors, like you said. Or it could be her boyfriend. He is probably uncomfortable with the whole idea of you spending so much time with his girlfriend. But just take things slow. Don't pressure her into hanging out with you. If the two of you are true friends, then she will come around. Good things come to those who wait! Your friend is probably stuck, between you and her boyfriend. She wants to keep the both of y'all happy. That is why she still communicates with you. Only if it is for 5 minutes. Its enough time to say hello and ask how are you. And it keeps her guy happy as well. He knows that she talks to you, but he also knows that she keeps the conversations short and to the point. Be patient. And you will see that everything will work out in the end.
2006-09-05 04:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she got a bf to fill the void, waiting for someone else to ask her. That someone was probably u. Now that she has that bf she doesn't want to hurt him by spending more time with you. The real deal here is that she probably likes you and wanted you to be her bf. Did you ever ask, or were u afraid that u might lose her as a friend ? Now, u need to talk to her. Need to ask her what's going on. Looks like u like more than a friend, reading between then lines on your question. Ask, you have nothing to lose. Might be to late, but hey it's worth the shot. You never know maybe she's waited for that moment for a long time now.
Good Luck !
2006-09-05 04:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you guys ever talk about your romantic feeilngs for eachother? I am thinking that maybe she has some kind of feelings for you and she will feel guilty hanging out with you or talking to you while she has a BF. I dont know, I could be wrong, but if you guys were just friends then I dont see why she would stop talking to you. Or maybe her BF has a problem with you guys being friends and she is just keeping her distance. I would stop her one day and say hey whats up? Whats with the distance lately. Just see what she says. Good luck
2006-09-05 04:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
went through the same thing ---- its tough!!! when someone gets a bf or gf they naturally get distant from their friends but only for a while -- the balance will be back soon! I think girls especially think that they can do wotever they want to their friends and they'll still be there at the end of the day but they have to make an effort to keep a bf so in tunr neglect their friends -- if tht makes any sense?! hope this helps xoxox
2006-09-05 04:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by xbrunettes_have_more_funx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem. My bf's est friend and I were like brother and sister. We would spend hours on the phone, together and everything. Us 3 were inseperatable. Then he got a gf and everything went down hill. Basically all that you can do is sit back and watch. Granted she'll always be your friend you just won't have the bond that you use to. Trust me she'll come back around. If yins had the type of bond like we did, it will come again. Just give it time.
2006-09-05 04:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by SHG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow apart and sounds like you two are taking a different direction in life. You cannot blame the boyfriend, rather her maturing and finding other avenues of socialization.
Take the time you share together as very special. Perhaps in time you will merge back for more time together. Whether alone or with friends, remember you have shared life expereiences and now it may be time for each of you to expand those experiences separately.
2006-09-05 04:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from ur description what i'm getting is that her bf has nothing to do with it at all.. then the only answer is she is just busy with school and life.. she definitely doesn't have anything against u.. she's just having a busy time right now and she needs some personal space.. thats it.. nothing more.. then again there's always the chance that she turned to drugs.. thats what happened to my bestfriend and we're no longer bestfriends but i doubt it.. anyways good luck with her.. i hope u're not feeling jealous bout her having a bf cuz if u're u got some feeling in there..
2006-09-05 04:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We women tend to bore easily if you don't hold our interest. A little advice for you don't beg and start talking to someone else. And spend more time going out with other women and don't concentrate on this one!! In the long run if you are a good friend she will come back!! And if she does just be a good friend. Good Luck!!
2006-09-05 05:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to see this girl tommoro then you should ask her what your asking us? The best way to get an answer to your question is to talk to her about this to her face. This will be the best answer you can get instead of people on here guessing as to why she's doing this. The only way to really know is to ask her and get her answer, not ours. Yes, we can give you our opinions, but we may be wrong about them seeing that we are not this girl and we don't know what she's thinking. Whatever you do make sure you talk to her alone and ask her what you want to know. You will be so happy you did when your finished. Atleast you will know why and you don't have to walk around worndering. Talk to her ok, and I wish you luck also!!!
2006-09-05 04:43:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋