there is something very dramatic going on. i have two guys that want to call me theirs. i have been with the one for a long time now, and the second just recently. I have slept with both. Now they both swear they are going to kill the other one. I have no doubt to their sincerity. Both have been to prison...one for murder, one for attempted murder. One has children to take care of. I don't want either to die. I have created a mess, and the only way that i can see that they won't try to kill each other over me is if i am dead. This seems like a good idea to me. To you?
And please don't say "don't kill yourself" just to say it. You do not know me. You would not mourn if i died. I need advice.
2006-09-05 04:04:00 · 7 answers · asked by Jez 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didnt know ahead of time that they were criminals
2006-09-05 04:09:23 · update #1
You need to start living your life for you... and not for them.
Please consider defining your own happiness based on what you want. Don't make yourself the resolution of their issues. Besides, you have no guarentee that should you die that they won't try to kill each other anyway.
As I am no professional, I can offer only limited advice. Consider what you want. Spend time in the company of (female) friends. Discover all of the things that make you happy. When you are finally centered and have a firm grasp on what you aspire to be... then you will know how to work things out.
2006-09-05 04:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a delicate question but I'm afraid I cannot give you a delicate answer. You have indeed created a big mess and you should be ashamed of yourself, not only for having cheated and slept with both men (which shows a tremendous lack of character) but also because of your lack of standards as to whom you're with. Why on earth would you get involved with a violent and most likely very stupid and jealous person, let alone get involved with two? I won't say "don't kill yourself" just to say it, I'll say it because I think that's cowardice, it's selfish and the easy way out, which is the same as saying it's the wrong way out. It shouldn't even be an option. You're right, I would not mourn if you died, but I'm sure there are people who would and it wouldn't be fair to them. My advice to you is to leave both of them and tell them if you need time to think things through. Tell them you do not want anyone to get hurt because of you and that you cannot carry on a relationship with someone that would hurt the other. Admit that you have created the mess and that it is up to you to take the responsibility to clean it up and that they have to accept that. I sincerely hope that helps. Make an effort to develop a stronger character and to demand better for yourself and good luck with everything.
2006-09-05 11:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it is really hard to tell if you are serious.
Assuming that you are, killing yourself is not the answer and yes I would care.
It seems as though you need to start keeping better company. I was engaged to a man who went to prison, I did stay with him for a few years but it just didn't work.
I would think that you would have to stay away from both of them. Get yourself out of the situation.
Playing two guys against each other is not a good idea, especially the kind of men that you are speaking about.
2006-09-05 11:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ur life so u got every rite to do what ever u wish wid it even if it mounts to killing oneself . But in this kind of a situation if u dont want ne of ur bf s dying u should move away to some other place where none would find u .Though it is a drastic measure ,it is certainly better than dying . All The Best nd do give a second thought before suciding ......
2006-09-05 11:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Parjanya Roy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest dumping them both and moving to another town. That way you are not involved at all, and you can get a fresh start at life. Don't blame yourself--yea, you slept with both of them, but it's their out-of-control temper that's making the situation worse. Don't let either of them turn that temper on you, get out while you can.
2006-09-05 11:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get involved with criminals and two of them? I know about the second chance thing but if you knew about their history why did you do it?
2006-09-05 11:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by B.J. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.... Call the police.... Tell them what is going on... Also, Next time dont get involved with Criminals...
2006-09-05 11:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋