Ever since I was a little girl, I've been attracted to women. However, I've always dated men. During the time I've dated men, I never felt attracted to them or felt emotionally attatched to them. I never dated women, but some women that were close friends of mine, I felt all that emotional stuff and attraction. Anyway, I know it's wrong to be a homosexual because it says so in the Bible, but I can't stop thinking about women. I really want God to help me sort out my feelings. I would like to get married and have a family, but I also want to feel emotinally connected and attracted to my husband. It's not fair for him to feel it for me and I don't love him hypothetically speaking. Perhaps I need to have more faith and belief in God in helping me find a man to love and be attracted to. I'm 28 years old by the way. What do you think? Thank you to those who answer!
2006-09-05 04:01:23 · 28 answers · asked by sugarbear 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Do you think I should seek counseling for this? I know most people would say "be gay, be yourself, blah blah blah" but I know in my heart it's wrong...
2006-09-05 04:05:50 · update #1
Do you think by people telling me to be myself, it's Satan's way of having control of the Earth and justifying homosexuality to make it seem ok?
2006-09-05 04:19:28 · update #2
I have told God in my prayers that I want to stop my thoughts. I have admitted to Him that I'm wrong. However, I never went through any church ceremony to be saved...
2006-09-05 04:38:29 · update #3
oh Sugar, please know that it is perfectly OK to be whoever you are. Please ignore the bible and everything in it. Honey, the bible was written by men. It was written by male chauvinists homophobes. God created you and he doesn't make mistakes. God doesn't care anymore about your sexual orientation than He does if you eat shrimp. Please, please ignore any reference to sin or hell, those are man made terms. They are not God made. You are a child of God and he only cares what is in your heart. Please be who you are and ignore the fanatics. Please!!!!!!
Please, the very last person that you should speak to would be any religious leader.
2006-09-05 04:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I know I may sound like a broken record but here I go anyway...We all have a different journey to take while we are here on Earth. Each of us have lessons to learn and trials we must bear. What sins I must overcome may be different from the sins you need to overcome.
It is never, ever a sin to love someone. It is the road you go down, to follow that love, that might lead to sin. For example, it is a sin to commit adultery. If you were married and you fell in love with someone else and the two of you had sex, that would be adultery...a sin.
God loves you. He loves you as you are. He has hopes that you will do the right thing. I do believe that homosexuality is a sin, because it is written so in the Bible. Does that mean that you are hated or condemned by God? Absolutely not. It means that you must pray and ask for the answers from God how you should live your life. He will answer you, I think he has already answered you. You say yourself that you feel it is wrong in your heart.
You do not need more faith or belief in God. You seem, to me, to have plenty of faith and belief in God already. What you need is more faith in yourself to make the right decisions in your life. What is right for you? That is between you and God through prayer. Not you and the human race.
I have tried not to come across as judgmental in my answer to you. You are asking for help because you are confused and I am trying to help you. I commit sins every day. I have commited huge, horrible sins in the past that I do believe God has forgiven me for. I still commit some little daily sins like cussing under my breath or letting my anger get the best of me. I pray for forgiveness for these sins every single night. You want to know something amazing? I'm commiting these type of sins less and less. I actually have managed to go several weeks without losing my temper or using curse words. I know that, because I am human, I will sin again. Through prayer, Heavenly Father will lift me back up. He will do the same for you, as I am sure you already know.
YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL SOUL and I really meant it when I told you that God loves you as you are. The best of luck to you and may God always bless you.
2006-09-05 11:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, "be gay, blah, blah, blah" is not such bad counseling. The MOST important thing is to be who YOU are. If that is a gay person, then you should accept who you are and move on. Whatever decision you take now will affect you for the rest of your life. You have the choice to be miserable with a man that you don't love and make his life miserable as well in the process and, if you have children in this marriage, raising them in unhappiness - that doesn't sound fair to anyone involved! You also have the choice to explore who you really are and find out once and for all if this is really you. I suggest you contact some people who are admittedly gay and also religous and find out how they reconcile the two.
Good luck with your life!
2006-09-05 11:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by MarQus1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are correct in knowing the Bibles' answer to one of todays most hearlded sins. There can be several things that have influenced your feelings and emotional attachments. Homosexuality is sin. It is being promoted by the devil to confuse and condemn humans.
The devil uses demons/spirits/familiar spirits to do his work in human lives. It is possible that you have unknowingly allowed an immoral spirit into your life which is influencing your thoughts and emotions.
Another factor may be that you had an unhealthy relationship with a male which had a primary place in your life. You do not trust men and are afraid of a relationship which would open you up to be hurt again.
The best thing would be to get counselling. But, be sure it is with someone who believes the Word of God and is living by it.
Question for you.............are you a born again believer? In other words, have you admitted to God that you are a sinner? That you believe that He sent Jesus to die to pay the penalty for every humans sin? That the blood that Jesus gave up at the time of His crucifiction cleanses and purifies all who call on His Name? That Jesus arose on the third day victorious over the devil/death/sin? That the Word of God (Bible) and the leading of the Holy Spirit are all we need to live for God and please Him? Are you attending a Spirit-filled church??
If not, ask God to lead you to one. And, then attend faithfully - -even when you feel threatened/uncomfortable/angry/etc. Give God a chance to provide you with answers and friends.
Please feel free to E-mail me with other questions! God bless your journey to Him.
2006-09-05 11:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Roseyred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly natural, normal and OK to feel close to women, for after all, women understand women better than men do. Women always feel close to other women. Men also like to hang out with other men not because of homosexual tendencies, but because men understand other men better and their emotional life is much shallower than women. You need feel no ill ease over feeling close to women. Don't confuse (join together) sexual attraction and emotional attraction. You will never get deep emotional attraction to a man, only a woman, because men have the emotional level of worms.
If you have emotional attraction to women and also physical attraction, then maybe you are gay and are better off gay. It is unnatural for men and women to be together. Marriage is an unnatural union. It is a forced union between mutually uncomplementary people.
God isn't going to help you sort out your feelings. The bible was written by men. God is an invention of men. Men make god say things, like sexual attraction is wrong between the same sexes (I'm not sure the bible ever says such a thing, but men who "interpret" it, that is make it say what they want it to say, say it does).
If you want to have children and you believe that children need a "man" around, then I suppose you'll have to endure a marriage, even if you don't find it fulfilling. You might want to re-think why you want to get married or find a man to love and feel attracted to. Is it because of society? Parents? Expectations of others?
2006-09-05 11:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pandak 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are truly confused, try a Christian Counselor. But you should definitely keep talking to God, He is the only one who knows your deepest innermost thoughts. He can guide you, but it will take time and diligence on your part. You already know what the Bible says, just believe and trust in the Lord. Time may seem like the enemy and maybe for the way you feel it is. Satan has many snares for us. We can dodge them if we trust the Lord with all our heart soul and strength.
The right man is out there for you, but remaining true to God and yourself is the key to finding him. Remember God's time is not our time. It will happen when God feels you are ready. May God Bless and help you in your quest. And may He strengthen your faith. Keep prayer on the front burner!
2006-09-05 11:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by need to know 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you do get married to a man then your marriage will break down due to a lack of commitment. If you care enough for someone to marry them you wouldn't treat them like this. You can't force yourself to be something you're not as it will make you miserable.
The bible may say that homosexuality is wrong, but it also says that adulterers must be put to death, that men who have an injury to their genitals may not enter church. Oh yeah and if you hit your mother or father (no matter what age you are!) then you should be put to death. and then theres the bit about not trimming your beard... and about it being evil for women to hold any power...
Don't let a book or other people tell you what to do. Listen to your head and your heart, believe in yourself and you will know in your heart what is the right thing to do. Don't live a life of misery just to conform. You are right!!! Not them!! You are right!!!!
But thats just my opinion...
2006-09-05 11:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are some of us, who find an attraction to our own kind..
it is perfectly normal.. society might tell you not to.. thats okay..
your feelings, your emotions, they were given to you..
you have a choice of using them or ignoring them..
no matter what you do.. you will be forgiven if you have not forgotten..
thats the beauty of the bible.. you can ask for forgiveness.. again u dont have to wait til the last minute on your death bed...
i would suggest you to ingnore the fear u feel from socitey and god on your feelings towards people.. u have nothing to fear..
if god will allow those christains who molest litttle boys.. i think you are in the clear.. god allows so many sick and evil people into his kingdom, if they simply accept god for who he is and what he has done.. and ask for forgiveness...
u might need to find a man who is very open minded and understands your attraction to women.. after all there are alot of men out there as well who are attracted to men, but wont admit.
2006-09-05 11:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by "FroG" 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know where you live, but you might want to seek counsel from someone involved with the Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches (MCC.) MCC (of which I am not a member; I prefer to stay in my own Church and advocate for change) can help you sort out the Scriptural and historical background to the prohibitions of homosexuality in traditional religion. Don't give up girl. There is a book out there called 'The Lord is My Shepherd and He Knows I'm Gay" by a Rev. Troy Perry, which might also give you some direction and encouragement.
2006-09-05 11:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by chan.casey@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's in the bible in two areas: Leviticus and Romans. It's in Leviticus because the jewish tribes wanted to increase their numbers (to survive as a group against their enemies) by having God divinely mandate procreative sex. If you look at other 'sins' in Leviticus, you'll see that they're obviously what the culture decided and NOT God (e.g. God forbids cutting the corner of men's beards, orders putting to death those who curse their parents, forbids wearing clothes of 2 different weaves). It's in Romans because these are letters from Paul to the group of christians in rome. Paul (Saul of Tarsus) was jewish who was raised in the anti-homosexual culture of his time and, therefore, his biases are in his letters. Many have come to the conclusion that Jesus' original message was dramatically changed (e.g. the 4 gospels represent what people popularly considered was Jesus' message). Bottom line: God is Unconditional Love. Anything -- sin, guilt, hell, punishment, judgement -- that says otherwise is man's concepts pushed onto God. Unconditional Love celebrates whatever expression of love that two consenting adults engage in. Just love others and try to reduce the negative concepts that you have of God, regardless of how 'true' you think they are.
2006-09-05 11:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Homosexuality is a curse, it says so in the scripture, and curses can be broken. I would advise you to FAST AND PRAY. There are some kinds of spirits that come out not but by prayer and FASTING and this is one of those kind. There are many scriptures on Fasting in the Bible ask God to help you learn how to fast and pray. THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO BREAK THIS CURSE THAT I KNOW OF.
2006-09-05 11:46:58 · answer #11 · answered by wisdom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋