2006-09-05 03:59:22 · 17 answers · asked by JistheRealDeal 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On the whole, I don't. I mean, it's not fair to apply that in other situations, right? Do you say "once a thief, always a thief" and never trust somebody who shoplifted a pack of gum in first grade even though they learned their lessons and haven't stolen since? Do you say "once a rapist, always a rapist" even though the basis for the rape charge was that he was 19 and she was 17? Do you say "once a killer, always a killer" and treat the man who shot a burglar in self-defense as if he were no different from Jeffrey Dahmer or the BTK guy?
There will be some people out there who simply don't see what is wrong with having romantic and/or sexual encounters with multiple people, and will chafe at the idea of having to "pick one and stick with it", and thus will find it very difficult to do so. But I think compared to the general population of folks who have committed infidelity, those people are in the minority. If there are repeat offenses, then it's more likely that the repeat cheating is because the person isn't happy in THIS PARTICULAR RELATIONSHIP - not because s/he is inherently a "cheater" and would sleep around no matter to whom she was purportedly committed.
2006-09-05 04:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstance. I think alot of people would be prone to cheat when a relationship is falling apart and near the end. But in general you can never trust a cheater. Well, you can trust them to cheat.
2006-09-05 11:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Cheaters have a character flaw and that usually doesn't change.
2006-09-05 11:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with that! Once a cheat always a cheat!!! I have found in my experiences and from friends. Someone has cheated then they cheat on the next person and the next and the next. It's vicious circle!
2006-09-05 11:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by chrihutch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the statement to a point. People tend to rationalize despicable behavior like cheating w/ statements like “they weren’t meant for each other anyway”; “it just happened”; “I didn’t want to fall in love w/ him/her”. I think if one spends so much time & energy rationalizing like that, it’s easier to do it a second time. That doesn’t necessarily guarantee it would happen -- sometimes people learn from their mistakes -- but if my gf told me that she cheated in past relationships, I would be more vigilant.
2006-09-05 11:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy and the situation. But if you don't make them pay big time the first time then they will continue to walk all over you.
2006-09-05 12:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea a cheater can change---if they want to...the reason why some dont ever change is because their inconsiderate selfish and really dont want to stay committed to one person
2006-09-05 11:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope because i was in a relationship with m,y ex and i was cheating on him with my other ex. he just wasnt making me happy, i thought by staying with him, things would get better, but they didnt, so i left him and i found somebody better, and i changed my ways, becasue he was something special to me and i really cared for him and i knew that he wasnt cheating on me, and ever since i got with him, i was faithful, no matter if we did break up.
2006-09-05 11:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by sasha s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Human nautre is hard to change and some people just don't care to change themselves
2006-09-05 11:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Husband had an emotional affair.
It was years ago and since then we have been saved and I know that he would NEVER do it again.
2006-09-05 11:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋