I want to suprsie my girlffrend by giving her an engagement ring, but i just want to know if i would just need to let her sisters know or something. What do you guys reckon?
2006-09-05 03:56:41 · 53 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is considered traditional to ask your fiance's family for their blessing. It will show that you respect their opinions and that family matters. You can still surprise her with the ring afterwards.
My fiance managed to call my dad and brother and set up a face to face meeting with them to ask for their blessing. Then he called my mom to ask for hers (all without me knowing about it)....then that night he blindfolded me and took me to the store (where they'd just finished setting the diamond) and proposed. It was a surprise and I loved that he'd talked to everyone important in my life first. Plus, it earned him a lot of points with my family because it showed that he was considerate.
You should definitely talk to her family! It'll work out well for you in the end.
2006-09-05 09:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to ask anyone in this day and age. However, my fiance went to my mum and asked permission the day before he proposed to me (my dad is dead so a bot more difficult to ask his permission). He presented her with flowers and a bottle of Bailey's, got down on one knee and asked if she would be his mother-in-law (you just can't make up stuff like this). It was a very sweet gesture, my mum felt thrilled and touched that he asked her first and I still had no idea what the hell was happening until he produced the ring and proposed. Good luck and enjoy the experience. x
2006-09-05 04:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by dragonwithpurplepants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to surprise my girlfriend by proposing on Christmas Day 2001. I talked to her parents about it and they weren't exactly negative, but did point out they didn't really know me all that well (which they didn't) and while they were sure I was a nice bloke etc. etc. they couldn't really say I should go for it.
I could've proposed anyway, but I decided to take on board their comments and wait.
So I proposed in September of the following year (still a surprise - she knew nothing of the Christmas conversation) having spent 9 months living together, and everyone was happy.
The parents-in-law were happy that I listened to their concerns and took appropriate action, my wife (we got married in 2003) was happy with the surprise (although valentines day she got upset because she expected me to propose then), and I was happy because... errrr.... mmmmm.... I forget lol.
2006-09-05 04:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by hastetothewedding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi no its suppose to be tradition, but i dont think many people ask now. Like you say if you feel better for doing it then just bring it up in a conversation, thats if you get on well with her dad. But once you have purposed there is not really much they can do about it.
2006-09-07 07:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is traditional 2 talk 2 the parents n ask 4 her hand in marriage. not siblings or other relatives but the parents.
whatever u do make it a night 2 remember 4 both of u...be ultra romantic its always so sweet.
Good luck and congrats.
2006-09-05 03:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to, but if you know that your girl's family is very traditional (and they like you), it would be a very wonderful way of showing your respect. I'm referring to her parents, not sisters. You could let them in on it if you plan on having them help you with the surprise. Otherwise, give your girl her moment. Hope this helps. Congrats & Good Luck!!
2006-09-05 05:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is respect to ask the relatives if you can have her hand in mariage, if you do it will win brownie points with the parents and relatives then they will love your ***. Sister's generally really trust each other so if you need them to keep a secret for you relating to the surprise they will be able to help you and it will go smoothly and your missus will be impressed when she hears that you got people involved and it will look like it needed more organising than it really did. she will sh@g your brains out for it aswell! trust me.
2006-09-05 04:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally you would get the parents' blessing in advance, but that's it. And even that is now sort of regarded as "old-fashioned" and/or "cute".
Definitely no need to talk to the sisters beforehand - unless you need their help planning the surprise!
2006-09-05 04:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ahould ask her father that makes it special its old fashioned but you will get respect from her father, mother, her and the rest of her family it shows you are a real man. My fiance' asked my Dad if he could have my hand in marriage before he asked me it meant alot to my dad and me. Ask her parents. Good Luck and congradulations!!!
2006-09-05 04:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be a sweet gesture to ask the parents permission first but make sure that the answer from the girl is going to be yes when you propose to her ...
2006-09-05 04:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋