just need your input on this question thanks so much for your time to look at this question . I am trying to show my husband from real peoples answers on this topic.
2006-09-05 03:48:39 · 17 answers · asked by dawn_m262001 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You want to show your husband the answers.. Then he must be the one causing you to feel a loss of self-esteem. Correct ? .. Any name calling, verbal abuse, .. physical abuse, being told that you can never do anything right . Being told that you are too fat or thin. If your husband is doing anything to you that makes you feel worse about yourself, you don't need to read about it here , you already know that he is hurting you. This is no way for a husband to treat his wife. This is also known as "abuse" .. Abusers will NEVER admit that they are abusers.. so don't think that by him reading this will change his mind. What you need to do is to take care of yourself. If you feel you are in immediate danger, move out of that house .. move in with your parents, a friend .. someone that will be there for you .. Most men like this are little boys and cowards inside. The only way for them to make themselves feel better is to try to make someone close to them feel worse. It gives them a feeling of "power" .. If your husband is like this .. it usually gets worse.. it may start with verbal abuse and then move on to slapping or hitting you .. There is a typical cycle of the Husband working up into an angry frenzy . ..then when it is over , . he may tell you how sorry he is .. and that it will never happen again. .. Whatever you do , don't believe him. It WILL happen again. It will also happen more frequently and only get WORSE as time goes on. I would seek out a good counselor. There are counselors that work on a sliding fee scale ..and there are also free services for both mental health needs and / or physical abuse. If he doesn't like the idea of you seeing someone for help .. then too bad. You don't have to tell him about it. Obviously, if he is acting like this, he is not being a loving husband, or a friend to you either. So forget about his lousy opinions. It is difficult to take that first step and admit to yourself that you have a problem. But he will not change. You need take care of yourself FIRST. Then if he is willing to go to counseling with you ...all lthe better.. If not, move out of there .. take things one step at a time .. but you MUST find a place to live where you can feel SAFE .. and not worry about some jerk picking on you. Good luck to you and God Bless you.
2006-09-05 03:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All of the above. Being overweight and trying EVERYTHING to get it off and then seeing a pretty little thing complain that she can't keep it on. being told that an idea is stupid or that it won't work. and then even when I find out that I was right it doesn't mean anything because people tell you not to boast or gloat. I feel like the old saying Damed if you do and damed if you don't ..I can't win.
2006-09-05 11:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by memorris900 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is some lowering stuff. That can lower it.
When someone stabs me in the eye with the jagged edge of a broken whisky bottle I don't feel pretty.
Sometimes when people tell me I am worthless sh*t.
If someone always bitches about how I do things and always f*ck it up.
Sometimes if the cops kick me in the face or if I pee on myself.
I met Richard Nixon once.
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2006-09-05 10:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Whatever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being called any names (including nicknames) unless I approve of, someone constantly rechecking something you did or questioning your judgement on something, constantly talking about how attractive other people are and are not, being told or commanded to do something for someone all of the time rather than being asked, for me my boyfriends love of porn lowered my self esteem
2006-09-05 11:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by blueberry-yum-yum! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that my self esteem is higher when I am single when I am with someone for awhile I find that when they are feeling bad about themselves they try to feel better by putting me down
2006-09-05 10:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by frogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Only you can allow your self esteem to be lowered.
2006-09-05 10:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being told that your sister is the pretty one and you are the clever one.
Great I'm Ugly and my Sisters Thick!
I think i might go and crawl under a rock
2006-09-05 10:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by nevergrowup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too much, the only thing is if someone spoke down to me. My fiance is WAY smarter than me, and we both know it, but he never holds that against me. If I don't understand what he is trying to explain to me, he will "Dumb" it down for me, without making me feel dumb. I have never felt ashamed of Me around him. He is the only person who I have dated that loves me for me.
2006-09-05 10:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by sdarp1322 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people insulting you or ignoring you can give you low self esteem.
yelling and fighting is bad too. good luck. I wish you well. remember no matter what anyone else says.
believe in yourself!!!
2006-09-05 10:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ginnykitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only from forgetting that I am the righteousness of GOD through the Lord GOD Jesus Christ.Nothing more.May God Bless You.
2006-09-05 10:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋