what is it about cheating that makes us, mostly the girls so mad and hurt? because when you break it down & compare it to the other problems that face us in life it seems really unimportant that a partner went out with on a date another person or slept with another person...
2006-09-05 03:48:34 · 32 answers · asked by princesstheruler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i see so many of the questions where the poeple are just completely undone over being cheated on and i hate to see that, i really hate knowing that one persons actions can completely ruin someone else so i wonder what is that key factor that leaves us open to be crushed by another
2006-09-05 03:57:48 · update #1
because it is about trust....if a person says that they want an open relationship that is honest. if they pretend to be faithful then it is just a form of lying.
sure there may be worse things, but when you really care about someone and trust them, it does hurt. some people are capable of feeling this emotion, some do not. that is why there is so much corruption and crime, those who have no conscience or feel no remorse see it as no big deal, those people should simply stay single.
2006-09-05 03:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because its human psycology. The fact of a woman cheating in bed witha nother man will drive u crazy. Why beacuse the woman you love is risking having another mans baby, just for pleasure with that man. That idea can be very hurting. As for a man cheating a woman, feels the same way, beacuse sex is a very intimate thing, organs and pleasure that should be used for mates in love. why? beacuse it is meant to reproduce, and you only reproduce with people u love (in humans, and even then, not alawys :) ) Apart from this the lie, being lied to and be looked as somebody stupid. When u love and u dedicate urself to somebody if they cheat I feel is the obligation to tell. But not telling is selfish and demeaning for the victim. Also cheating hurts beacuse he/she did not acre about you and ur feelings just to satisfy and urge, which sounds very animalistic. But the problem is men and women are just very well educated animals. So many will act like a wild one. Without carying about anything just their urges. If they do this leave them, specially if they lied about it, and u found out elsewhere, or if they keep doing it. I hope this helps.
2006-09-05 11:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for me my partner is my safe haven. The one person on earth I can trust and don't have to be on guard with. The person who is always looking out for me and my best interest. He is my best friend and my life partner. If I lost that or any portion of that it would severely change my outlook on life. I know that I can get through all of lifes other problems with him by my side and I know that when I need him he will always be there. I know that when I am down and out I can on him and my family.
I also don't think it is only girls. Try cheating on a guy they tend to take that crap pretty hard. The difference is they don't want everyone else to know about it so they keep it to themselves. I know if I cheated on my husband he would be devastated
2006-09-05 03:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating makes us so mad, because we have put our trust in the other person. When this happens all trust is lost for that person and it ruins the relationship for down the road.If the other person really loved you and cared about you they wouldn't do such awful things like CHEATING. Take a good look at what you've allowed yourself to be involved with. Life is precious, so don't waste your time with someone so worthless. Cocoa
2006-09-05 04:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for all of us to feel this way, women AND men. We feel just the same, but as men most of us are taught to not show emotions too much and to hold it in. That is why I believe that most women think guys are so heartless.
The reason that cheating effects us so much is because we want to be that person's one and only. We believe in our hearts that we are, but if it comes to the point we are not it hurts so much it feels like we are broken.
As much as it happens we are never ready for it, the best we can do is learn from it and move on. Eventually we all can find that one person that will love us the same way we will love them...
2006-09-05 04:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone, you put your faith and trust in that person. You share things with that person that you do not share with anyone else. It is very hurtful when a partner goes outside of the relationship and breaks the bond that ties you together. They destroy the trust and you lose faith in them. Sure other problems in life are just as devastating and we find hurt and sorrow in those as well, But to have a partner who cheats sometimes makes it difficult to trust anyone else, therefore making it difficult to find true happiness with someone else because you are too afraid to give your heart, invest in trust and faith, and openly love that person because you keep thinking and feeling that they will cheat just as your other love did.
2006-09-05 03:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by pampam50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would have to do with the trust issue. Many women have a hard time trusting men because of the cheating thing in the first place. Women don't want to share their man with other women because it is hurtful to think of your lover with someone else. It would be great if we all didn't feel that way or if jealous didn't sneak up on us.
2006-09-05 03:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by webster1305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because without honesty and trusty in a relationship you have nothing. If you want that then have an open relationship, at least it is honest. There are diseases out there that can kill, why should you die because of his bad choice?
Cheating is defined as an act of deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, used that way does it sound very good? Don't you deserve better? Have a really good one:-)
2006-09-05 03:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating by definition is a betrayal of trust. In this case, it is the trust that you have in each other that you are exclusive to each other. However, as for why this one in particular is SO enraging....
Evolution is the cause. Evolution demands that the best genes be passed on to children, and similar to capitalism, that ends up requiring that everyone act in their own interests, ie doing what they can to pass their own genes on, and for their children to be competetive. Therefore, it will be bad for your mate, which has really good genes otherwise you wouldn't be with him, to give those good genes to other children, and make them (the "enemy") better able to compete with your own children. This giving of "the best genes" to your children's competition is evolutions's version of cheating.
Now, I'm not saying that mere biology is the only thing to it. We are sentient, there's more to it than that. But the reason it incites such *rage* is that its built in. Also, evolution has no conception of sex without procreation; they are equivalent. So to "tell" evolution "Well, I didn't pass on any genes, so what's the problem?" doesn't work. Evolution is *only* concerned with genes.
2006-09-05 04:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by aristotle2600 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we all want to feel special and truly loved... it's a need inside most of us that we want fulfilled... and when we get that good feeling thinking we have achieved happiness just to find out we've been fooled and cheated... Well it hurts... and it hurts bad...
then being totally mad about the situation emotionally shortly follows... It's tough not being consumed by the entire ordeal...
2006-09-05 03:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋