omg she never lets me do anything
2006-09-05 03:21:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a 52-year-old father of four sons. One of them is 17. He's been in some trouble. He and I go round and round about this question. Trust is not given. It is earned. When he demonstrates that he can be trusted, he'll be trusted. He doesn't get it (or refuses to get it).
I'm not saying that you are like him or that you have been in trouble. I'm just pointing out that for parents, trust comes as we see the child grow into more responsible behavior. This includes fairly simple things like being where you are supposed to be, making good grades, and doing simple chores when asked without b-tching about it.
Now if you're doing these things and still don't have the privileges you think you should have, then you need to sit down with your mom and your dad and ask them what the the deal is.
Say, "I think I am a pretty good kid. And yet, there's quite a lot that I am not allowed to do. What can I do to earn your trust?"
One more point. Some of my reluctance to give my son a more free rein comes from his choice of friends. I do trust him more than he thinks, but I've listened to his friends talk when they think no adults are around. They are not good people.
2006-09-05 03:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start by earning it. Do you get good grades in school? That will help. Help out around the house more, do things that she will not expect you to do, like cleaning something that she never told you to do. If you keep that up, she will feel bad about saying no to you.
2006-09-05 11:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean!! omg my mom is the sammmee way.
shes like omg no kendall someone might kiddnapp u and molest you or what ever but it makes me mad but im happy that im goin out with ernie. hehe thats what mere calls him. haha and yeh anywayss but ok.
oh well there was something else but i dont remember it hehe,
LOVE YOU.
Kendedral
2006-09-05 10:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by lemscheerhottie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont make her tell you more than once to do things.
clean your room. dont let it look like a pig sty.
be responcible. listen. come in on time. do what you are supposed to do
2006-09-09 00:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her, do everything she says the 1st time. In time she will learn to trust you!
2006-09-05 10:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by malohalo_89 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just have a serious conversation with her. be honest and tell her what you feel.
2006-09-05 10:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her.....
2006-09-05 10:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by AngelCakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋