last saturday nite my boyfriend got really drunk and ended up touching this girls boobs. I wasn't there but he told me about it on monday, I had to get it out of him on the phone because he wanted to wait till today to tell me, but I was getting so upset because he was avoiding me because of this. I'm not mad that it happed because I was not there but, I did talk to him on the phone that day and asked him if he wanted me to pick him up. He did this one time before on his birthday when we both got hammered and I did tell him I didn't like it. He does feel really bad about what happened, but I'm just glad I know he didn't actually cheat on me. Should I keep him or leave him? I do love him alot. What advice coluld you give me about this situation?
2006-09-05 03:19:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*Leave him*!? That's a bit of an extreme option given the offence isn't it?
After all it's not like he touched this other girl's chest while sober is it? That would have been more worrying. As it is he was paralytic and behaved like a prat, which is silly and unfortunate but it happens to us all occasionally.
So if you love him and you consider that there is still milleage in the relationship then the best thing would be to warmly remind him that this is not what you consider acceptable conduct, and then continue as per usual.
In the great scheme of things a minor transgression like this isn't worth ending a relationship over.
2006-09-05 03:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by a1mandrake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person is drunk, their true nature is often revealed. Some people, like me! relax and become happy go lucky. Other people get violent and crazy.
If he went for another woman when he was drunk, sooner or later he will go for one when he is sober.
Your hold on him is a little shaky at this point. My advice would be to put him on probation, but don't tell him about it. The problem with cheating, especially when drunk becomes very serious when you can die from it. If he should get drunk and have sex with someone he could contract a serious disease and pass it on to you. There is no such thing as harmless cheating in this day and age.
Be careful with your life, it is the only one you have. Watch, wait and decide.
2006-09-05 03:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you ease up on the drinking. Its not helping matters and its not an excuse for him to get drunk and touch some girl's boobs. You're not mad because you weren't there? Girl, I'd be pissed at anything he did with another girl even if I wasn't there. Regardless of whether or not you were there he still committed the act. Since its not such a big deal to you, stay with him. Both of you should avoid getting 'hammered' so much.
2006-09-05 03:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by dsd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was really drunk and he didn't mean to than that was an honest mistake. He still cares about you, thats why he feels bad. If he did it on purpose, than you should let him go. But he was drunk and still cares, so you should just give him another chance.
2006-09-05 03:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep him...he touched a girls boobs when very drunk...and he seemed to be realy guilty about ti afterwards and he told you,he could of quite easily keptit :) from you...there are a lot worse guys out there.
2006-09-05 03:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by youngsoulrebel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhaa thats funny....well i guess its not cheating..but if he's done it twice already that really weird....he sounds like a perv.....being drunk is not an excuse to touching other girls boobs. He needs to get a life...dump his ***....or tell him that he needs to stop doing it..but he sounds like not that great of a boyfriend to be doing really strange perverted things like that!
2006-09-05 03:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by SuperChic3955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appears grade school is out for the day. Get a life
2006-09-05 03:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , first of all he needs to quit drinking so much if that is what happens when he drinks. One of these days he will touch the wrong person and somebody might end up stomping his but or killing him so tell him to ease off the drinking!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-05 03:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So its not ok for him to say sleep with a girl but its ok for him to touch their boobs ????? Do you think he would stay with you if you told him you touched some guys penis at a party ?? Have more respect for yourself than staying with a guy who does things like that.
2006-09-05 03:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it shows alot that he told you he messed up i would give him another chance he sounds like a good guy and hey you love him you cannot let him go at least it didn't go any farther
2006-09-05 03:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋