If a man, who is 20 years older than me, falls in love with me and manages to get my heart, should I be suspected about something sexually or nasty???
2006-09-05 03:14:59 · 25 answers · asked by derin15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 21:))))
2006-09-05 03:21:05 · update #1
Just listen to what your heart says and do that only! Don't listen to any other advice! If you feel you are in love with him, then go ahead. There should be no discrimination in love, be it age, race, colour or anything else. Some people might be PHYSICALLY 'old', but menatally they are still very young. So if you feel comfortable with him, then just don't bother about what the society might say. No one has the right to judge you! You are born free and you should always be free.
Have a good time
2006-09-05 03:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am taking a wild guess here that you are about 15, from your user name, if that is so, then I think this man is after something sexual, I don't think any 35 year old man would want to fall in love with a 15 year old, she would be just way too young for him, please be very carefull sweetheart, I think that at least if you are asking this question at least you fear there may be a problem some where with this man, listen to your gut feelings and stay well away, he isn't worth it, there are plenty of much younger guy's nearer to your own age that you can give your heart to, I do hope you haven't fallen for this man, it will end in tears, its more than likely that he is married already or has a girlfriend somewhere, even if he tells you no. OK, I have just noticed that you are 21, sorry for thinking you were 15, but even at 21 you are still way too young for this man, he is 41, possibly old enough to be your Dad, I still maintain what I said earlier, at 41, I think he will be married with children, and will have lots of baggage. I wish you luck.
2006-09-05 20:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by hotbabes_tracey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the possibility that things are not what they seem .... but the positive is, luckily, at least just as likely a possibility. If you see proper signs that you love each other - then no problem. However - you must think for the future. At 21/41 the difference is not too bad ... he should be up for everything, partying, sports etc (as well as the bedroom) but at 41/61 maybe not so able to keep up .... the gap widens. Needs thought before you get in too deep.
2006-09-05 04:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey so what he's 40-41?? Hardly ancient. Why not just enjoy it for now if you're in love with him?? Hey of course he'll get a buzz out of dating someone much younger than him. Which guy wouldn't - of course it's flatering for him - but that doesn't mean that there have to be dark ulterior motives.
Having said that, once the honeymoon phase wears off, you'll find out what you truly have in common, and if your relationship has a solid foundation. A 20-year age gap may become more of a problem when you're 35 and he's 55? But you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
For now why not just enjoy. And if its not meant to be move on.
2006-09-05 03:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Placebo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are kind of young and new to the harsh realities of the world. But if you both feel the same way about each other I don't see any problems with the relationship. Just remember, he's got age and experience to his advantage over you. When I was younger, older men would always ask me out. I guess older men feel young and vital when they have a young chickie by their side.
2006-09-05 03:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are under 20 then you should really make sure before rushing into anything. also how did you meet this man. also you should be careful because the age difference is the same as a 30 year old claming to be in love with a ten year old.
2006-09-05 03:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by leicestertroy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my forties and I don't consider myself to be "an older man". In many ways I feel hardly any different to when I was in my twenties - and that includes still finding attractive women in their twenties attractive! There is no crime in that. I am also a little wiser and more pragmatic than I used to be - so with your respective ages I would ask some questions around issues such as "do you want children, if so, how soon and how many?".
2006-09-05 03:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Philanthropic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, if you know him and trust him, it's possible there is nothing nasty going on. but the fact you suspect something and you love him is interesting. talk to him about it. ask him what he wants from you and how he feels about you.
2006-09-05 03:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by marisha z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are even thinking it is something unpleasant then you are not suited to this relationship. if you feel ok about it then there's no problem. i would have though sexual attraction was something you can handle at the age of 21
2006-09-05 09:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation i suppose. my husband is 7 years older than me and i dont think anything wrong with that. If you love him too then age is nothing apart from a number!
2006-09-05 03:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋