Who can i tell?

Question

For the past 5 to 6 months i have been having sex with my brother-in-law best friend who will be 26 in two weeks and i am 17 and just turned it last month. but our situation is that we want to be together but we can't b/c of the age thing and my bro-in-law won't allow it even though he don't know nothing about it. but we said that we was going to be ccareful about how we handle things between each other. but i might be pregnant and and i don't know if i sould tell him before i know for sure.

Answer 1

dont say anything unless you know for sure. That way you dont have to bust yourself if you didint really need to.

Answer 2

Your brother-in-law's best friend could be up for statutory rape. Which means he took advantage of a minor. First get a pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant. Next tell your parents or some family member whats going on. A 26 year old has no business being with a just turned 17 year old. The guy is using you for sex! You need to get out of this relationship right away. I hope you are not pregnant from this loser. And you should tell someone about this unhealthy relationship!

Answer 3

First of all most states wont do much of anything since you 17 goint to be eighteen.
YOu should get a check up with your gyn and see what news she has. Let her know you are sexually active, and see what Birth Control she recommends.
Having said that let me say this. And ask a question.
Is it your brother in law or his best friend?
He's 26 and your 17... Grant it in years gone by people married that young, younger girls to older men.
However in this day and age it is frowned upon, at least in some cultures such as ours.
If he is messing with you at your age, who esle is he messing with?
Believe me there is NO WAY a 26 year old MAN and a 17 year old KID, cant have any sort of relationship. You guys arent on the same level of maturity.
Your still in highschool, with the prom, your friends, whose who, who gong out with who and all that stuff.
Sure you may look or even pass for 21, but when it all comes down, your still a minor and thusly a child.
You have to ask yourself.. what does he see in me? Am I simply a tempting piece of tail, or does he see me as someone he can build his life with? Whether you marry this guy or not.
Is he someone you can talk to, have a conversation with? Does he share your likes and dislikes? Can you two compromise?
Do you two want children? What about jobs, careers ( an yes there is a difference), having a home or an apt? Who pays for what.. the car insurance, the bills, who cleans the house the groceries, and etc..
If these are not thoughts that go thru your mind and do not go thru his, neither of you are adult enough for a relationship.
Yes women mature faster than men, its a known fact. But somethings come with age, and its only with age that they come, however for some, it never comes at all.
Dont kid yourself into thinking your ready to settle down, your not. Your not ready to settle down and have the responsibilities that adults have. Take your time, date other men, men closer to your age. Once you have some experience behind those wet ears of yours you will see what I am saying.
Tell him you thik that you are pregnant.. if he's any kind of man at all you will know based on his reply.
What you do is up to you, what he does it up to him. Make your choices wisely and know about your options before you decide anything.
Knowledge is power

Answer 4

dooot do dooo!

Go get blood work done at your local clinic or doctors office. Then you will know for sure and you can talk to your statutory rapist about the situation.

Relationships of this nature are illegal for just this reason, babies result from them, and children as parents can have sad results. Not that you would, but in the eyes of the law thats what theyre trying to protect you from. Cause chances are this guy will hit the road once things get complicated. Its rare that a 26 year old wants to keep his under aged knocked up girl around for the long after show. That would mean he'd have to admit to family and friends that his baby is coming from a child.

I'd go have blood work to find out for sure, and then avoid this situation in the future.

Answer 5

Well, I say take the test first. I can't see this 26 year old wanting anything serious with you. He is way more experienced than you are in a lot of areas. If you are pregnant then you will have to tell somebody but be ready for the consequences. You know if you are grown up enough to participate in grown up activities, then you have to be grown up enough to handle the consequences. You know, whether good or bad---everything has a consequence.

Answer 6

FIrst of all he is a grown man. SO tell him and if hes any kind of man at all he will help you with what to do next. If not he deserves to be in jail for statutory rape. You did not have sex by yourself he is just as responsible as you are. If he leaves he wasnt worth having around and unfortunatly that leaves you trying to be the adult in a bad situation. So if that is the case take the test if its positive tell your family. YOu are gonna need their support. But its not the end of the world. YOu have options and you will need help making the right decision. IF its negative you need to learn about birth control. If your old enough to have sex you are old enough to be responsible for prevention or the consequences of having sex which ever the case my be. My prayers are with you and good luck.

Answer 7

Wait till you know for sure to tell him. How soon do you turn 18. I hope it's real soon or someone may be in trouble. Good Luck. Be more careful if you aren't already pg. This really doesn't seem like the time or the relationship to be getting pg in. Wait till you are a little older, there are plenty of forms of birth contol out there I think you can find one that suits you if you talk to your doctor.

Answer 8

I would wait to be sure, but tell your boyfriend that you have your doubts. He is old enough to know better.Good luck with the out come. If he is good to you, then your family should support you. The age thing does play a role, but only because your 17.

Answer 9

You need to do some growing up before you have a child. From what you wrote, you are not mature enough to make such an important decision as having a baby.

This guy is a pedophile and should be arrested. Period.

Answer 10

Get a grip dear,,,,
get the urine pregnancy test done
if positive decide if u want to have the baby
if u can go for abortion -- go for it,, 17 is hardly the age to be a mother
if no
wait for another 3 yrs ,, go to college,,
after that think of marriage

Answer 11

Take a pregnancy test don't tell him until you know for sure. You may want to think about what will happen if you do get pregnant is he going to be there for you?