http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgLfZIwRioAV3CAU.YePiJLsy6IX?qid=20060825085215AAJM8vJ there's my question. I'm just so worried. I don't know whether to tell my girlfriend or not. It seems like even if I told her my past still affects me because I regret it. It was before we had started going out or had even met but it was while we were "talking" on the phone. She liked me while we were talking on the phone but I just didn't like her because I hadn't met her and I didn't know what to expect ya know? Here recently everythings going good between us but my mind is killing me and I feel like something I did nearly 6 months ago is the end of the world and that I'm a horrible person and that my relationship isn't something special. She means the world to me and I don't know if I should just come out with the whole truth or keep in past. I'm so nervous because she means so much to me and has done nothing but been the greatest girlfriend ever. Can anyone relate to this? Pleasehelp
2006-09-05 03:11:22 · 17 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I even obsess over it. Like I even know the date that It happened and The date we got together and sometimes I question myself about gosh it was one month before I met the girl im with now and gosh Why didnt I just wait. Has anyone ever had something like this happen to them? It's like not even the most serious thing but it's very serious to me and It's hard to get over. I feel like my relationship isn't quite "perfect" even though it is.... Please help
2006-09-05 03:18:46 · update #1
dont tell her,you done nothing wrong,as you said it was before you met her,you are happy with her now so leave it at that, be happy you have her and stop dwelling. all is fine man!!
2006-09-05 03:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by hugskissesfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her the truth before she finds out from someone else. You know that she would rather hear it from you than someone out in the street. Your soul seems to be full of guilt and confusion. God isn't about guilt or confusion. HE loves when you are honest and rightous. Just be honest with her. If your love is strong then it will stand but you have to come clean. One lie will lead to another and pretty soon you will be lying to cover that lie and another to cover that one. You seem like you have a big heart so just be honest. If you can tell an internet full of people surely, you can tell your girlfriend. You alread know whats right and if she dumps you then she isn't the one for you anyway and God has someone better waiting on you. I believe that she will understand that it was 6 months ago and the 2 of you hadn't even met yet. If she can't forgive you for that then she truly is not the one for you. Pray and ask God to direct your path.
2006-09-05 10:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bothering you that much, talk to her. If she really is the girl you think she is, I don't see how she could possibly have a problem with something that happened before you were even really dating. With that being said, I personally would keep my mouth shut. As long as it isn't a regular occurrence what she doesn't know won't hurt her, and in the grand scheme of things, what you did isn't really that big of a deal.
2006-09-05 10:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her like you say you do. Then you should tell her the truth. She's forgiving, she'll still love you. This is before you met her, so it shouldn't matter to her. As long as you still care about her and tell her the truth, there shouldn't be anything else that matters.
2006-09-05 10:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cool mon. You are indulging in an obsessive thought loop. This is how depression starts. When you start thinking like this, firmly put it out of your mind and get a positive train of thought going. Don't indulge this kind of self flagellation, it's destructive.
2006-09-05 10:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by hankthecowdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop worrying. You did this before you knew her and you have to let it go. I see no reason to tell her anything. It seems you still feel guilty about it and will not forgive yourself. It is normal for teens to experiment and sometimes things go further than we're ready to handle. Go forward and enjoy your relationship with your new girl. Remember this feeling so that you don't go too fast and live to regret actions with her.
2006-09-05 10:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. Listen.
What happened before you met happened before you met, yes?
If I and goodness knows how many blokes worried about what happened before we met our present girl friends and wives, we`d spend our lives on a guilt trip. Forget it, don`t think about it, otherwise you will mess up your new relationship.
I wish I`d had half the chance when I was younger. :o)
2006-09-05 11:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Spanner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it is killing you so much inside that you should tell her because the feeling will only get worse. If she truly feels the same way about you she will forgive you for lying, but she will be mad because you held it in for so long..... The best advice is to come clean.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-05 10:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest. Tell her the TRUTH! It is going to keep at you anyway and eventually you will tell her.
I really think that she will appreciate you more for telling the truth. The sooner the better.
Good Luck to You!
2006-09-05 11:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to be honest with her. The guilt you are feeling will only cos problems as you will not be acting yourself. I can't say whether it will end the relationship or not as i don't know your gf. Good luck i hope you find the strength you need to be honest and hope it all works out for you. x
2006-09-05 10:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by stormy_sinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋