we were together for 3 yrs before he left the country and he is been so wonderful few years after he began to behave in a funny way he wont call.wont own up to his responsibilities i had to put up alot of reminders be4 he does them and whenever i made up my mind as never to call him even without his knowledge somehow he just get to know but i dont know how? and before you know he starts being so sweet and this is not once or twice so am getting bothered cos i've waited for too long for him and other suitors are coming but the thing is that of all that has been coming they dont have the qualities i want in a man.I am a christian and wants a God fearing man not just any man.Just help me out friends,looking 4ward to wonderful answers friends am worried waitng desperately to get your reply so i will know what to do.Thanks
2006-09-05 03:01:26 · 14 answers · asked by flo.g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
10 years is a long time to just date someone.
"too long" . He's just not in to you. Move on. He
does'nt have all the qualities, if he loved you
he would do anything for you..... never hurt you,
always reassure you , never leave you in doubt.
be friends . "Move on never put any man before
yourself,or GOD. love is peaceful,patience,and kindness
never boastful,never jelouse.....give it to god.
2006-09-05 03:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by rokrgrl77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that there is no nice answer for you. In human relationships, you cannot always have it just the way you want it. If you could, no one would ever part company. You say you are god fearing, but you have been in a relationship for ten years without marriage. You are in fact behaving as a child.
Communication is the life's blood for any relationship. When you do the things you do he cannot help but notice what you are doing. That business of not calling, that is petulant and no way to maintain a relationship. You should cement your relationship or drop it and stop playing games with your life and his.
You mention other suitors, which means you do not really care for this man. if you did you would settle your relationship once and for all.
I say; shame on you for behaving like a spoiled child. You are an adult, so act like won. If you can stand the truth, fine, if not--------------
2006-09-05 10:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you want to move on but can't cause you still have some feeling for the guy you have been waiting on for 10 years. That is a long time to wait for someone to grow up, if he is not what you want then move on don't waste 10 more years waiting. Sometimes you have to walk away from someone in order to make them grow up. Give him space to think about things and give yourself space to be sure he is what you want. Make sure you keep the door open for other suitors because the right man could just be around the corner.
2006-09-05 10:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r being toyed .He wants to see ur reaction whenhe gives u a heart ache.He just want u clinging on to u throughout the life as he might be boasting in front of his friends.He thinks u r in his palms and u can dance to his tunes.
Dont react to his SWEETNESS n let him know dat u r through now. U ve moved on .Otherwise he will again access ur life n dump again.
!0 yrs r pretty long time to rethink over the whole situation .
2006-09-05 10:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by dolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he isnt being the same person you knew when you first started dating i believe one of two things is going on
1. he is settled with you (some do feel secure and get a tad lazy)
2. his sites are else where, maybe from whatever happend over sea's
but the thing is if you still have strong feelings for him talk to him ask him for his true feelings, lack of communications brings answers that sometimes isnt right.
2006-09-05 10:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Paul C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people grow in different directions of their own accord sometimes. Isn't it frustrating?
didn't even ask you permission either.
and these other people, don't they know what you want?
"been coming they don't have the qualities i want in a man"
don't they know to not bother you?
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if this guy is not what you want, then I believe that you will find him, without my help, interference, direction, guidance or even knowledge of...
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g'day
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2006-09-05 10:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he obviously has. You will find someone with the qualities you want if you look.
2006-09-05 10:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he will not be the same guy because you have chnaged him by being with him for so long so it is your fault
2006-09-05 10:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart already know the answer to your question. If not one person answered you, what would you do? seriously? Follow your heart, not me.
2006-09-05 11:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Katrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have found the one you want.
2006-09-05 10:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋