I knew that my boyfriend had bought porn before we were together and that he watched it during the week, since we only see eachother on the weekends. I had no problem with this. Then, last weekend I decided that we could have fun watching one together and when he pulled them out, there were mags that were dated jan 06, feb 06.... He had swore to me that he hadn't been going, and all of this time he was lying to me. I feel so betrayed. I asked many times if he had went and he flat out lied. He also was buying reg. movies at the store that had explicted scenes. He said it was just to get him through the week, not to hurt me, but I feel like I can't trust him now.
Is this normal. Should I just try to get over it? What would you do?
2006-09-05 02:50:03 · 22 answers · asked by a b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think my point is being missed. I said I was going to watch it. It was the outright lying multiple times that was the problem. The capability that he can be so deceitful. What about that?
2006-09-05 03:06:37 · update #1
Honey, this is a hard one. Being a boy myself its easy to say boys would be boys, but I know the feeling of being betrayed. It sounds to me the most likely reason for Ur bf lying to u is that he is a Little embarrassed. In saying this I am not trying to justify his lies, not at all. It was wrong of him to lye to U! But it sounds to me that Ur relationship is going well. If u don't want this to rune Ur relationship, talk to him, tell him exactly what u wrote here and the rest of Ur feelings. If u want to continue in this relationship u would have to forgive, maybe Even later forget, but give yourself time. Time heals allot. I promise. And remember, it is normal to feel this way, if u didn't there would be serious problems in Ur relationship. But try to get over this.
Best of luck.
2006-09-05 03:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If pornography is the biggest of your problems, then you are overreacting. Men watch porn. The reason men watch porn is because men need a visual cue to be stimulated (thats why sex with the lights off is never a good idea).
As long as he is faithful, you shouldn't have anything to worry about.
You should try to become more involved in it and you might find that you enjoy it just as much, if not more, than he does. Trust me, the thought of you wanting to watch the films and look at the magazines with him, will be much more of a turn on them him hanging out alone in a dark room with a can of vaseline and a paper towel. I mean think about it.
2006-09-05 09:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see would u rather have him watching movies n pleasing himself or would u rather have him go out and cheat on u 2 get what he needs?
what is the problem, he is not hurting anyone and he is staying faithful 2 u. I think there r a lot more important things u should be worrying about. I would rather have a man who looked at porn then went out n cheated
2006-09-05 09:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen it's better then sleeping with another women during the week, just look at it that way.
Yes it is normal, he could be addicted to porn but i wouldn't look at it as cheating coz it's just watch not any movement but on screen.
It's not good to watch it though but people do...it is best to forgive and tell him that if he wants to stop watching it and he really is into it then u give him full support.
Forgivness is the best thing to do right now.
Good luck and smile*~`
2006-09-05 09:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, well at least you know now, that he has a tendency to lie, same thing with my ex. i just told him not to expect to have sex with me and watch that filth, i feel its disrespectful to me and my body, he didnt want to comply. you have the right to ask for him to not watch those if he wants to have sex with you, they'll be a lot of people on here about to tell you that the porn is harmless and all men watch it and its a release and blah,blah,blah. but there wrong. its disrespectful to you if you dont want him to do it.
2006-09-05 09:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it's that big of a deal... maybe he is just trying to learn some tricks to try on you! :0) In which case, be happy, most men don't do that!
2006-09-05 10:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Hey_Hey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always forgive, but never forget. And maybe you should seriously talk to him and let him know how much you feel betrayed.
2006-09-05 09:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His big crime was that he lied to you, not the porn. Now you know that he can't be trusted, so get out!
2006-09-05 09:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im making report about porn if it is acceptable. well, i say that as long as it doesnt lead to violence, its ok..
2006-09-05 09:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by `red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get over it.
if you had no problem with him doing it durring the week, it should have been ok at any time.
if you don't want him viewing porn...you should just tell him.
2006-09-05 09:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋