2006-09-05 02:42:10 · 35 answers · asked by colgate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is it ok to lie, in order not to hurt someone feeling?
2006-09-05 02:56:47 · update #1
Lying for some people is normal. But if you are lying to the person who you are in a relationship with, they're most likely going to find out, and if they have any sense to them, they are probably going to end it. In order to not hurt someone's feelings, it depends on how big the lie is. If it's a big lie then it is wrong. But if it's like telling the person that that outfit doesn't make her look fat when it really does, and she thinks she looks ok in it, then a little fib won't hurt anyone.
2006-09-05 03:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by AmsterF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the lies and the amount of time they're told and their purpose. For example, if you're lie hurts someone, or could hurt someone if they knew it was a lie, don't do it. Another example, you're lying about stuff you don't need to lie about like what you had for lunch or where you live for no reason. To people you love, this is quite abnormal. If you lie only to protect someone and they won't get really hurt if they figure it out, say 'I really like this person, do you think I have a chance?' and you say 'yes' though you're not sure that's fine. That's support. In that case though, try to believe your own lie. Don't lie too much. It gets people into trouble and can hurt a lot of feelings. And you can loose track of them and no tknow what you told people and who you are to them.
2006-09-12 02:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little white lies, I think, are normal and harmless as long as you don't let them rule your life. If a woman asks, "Do I look OK in this?" You don't have to tell her that it makes her butt look like the size of an elephants, but you should tell her that maybe something else would flatter her more.
Lies should be avoided when it's a trust issue, like "where were you last night?" The truth is always better, but there are ways to tell it without being insulting or mean. Honesty is the best policy, just learn to do it tactfully and compassionately.
2006-09-05 04:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a friend of mine had on a dress that she adored and I didn't care for, I would lie and tell her I loved it, to spare her feeling.
Lying is normal, does it make it morally right, maybe not, but if you are trying to spare a feeling or two, let it ride. I am usually a straight up kind of person, but sometimes you have to think of others feelings.
I wouldn't lie for someone that was doing something that would hurt themselves, or support that lie that they created wrong, and if it becomes a web that you can't seem to get out of...then I think that becomes abnormal.
2006-09-12 20:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean, like if someone asks "Am I fat?" and yeah, maybe they are a little, but you know they're sensitive about it, so you tell a little white lie, and say that they look great anyway--which they probably do? I think everyone does that to some extent, lies of kindness or politeness. That's common courtesy. But constantly lying, and telling of half truths is not normal, nor should it be encouraged, because eventually you'll get found out, and no one will trust you.
2006-09-05 03:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would rather someone tell me the truth and hurt my feelings. I will get over it if not too serious. However, if you tell me a lie eventually, I will find out the truth and realize you lied to me. That would hurt my feelings more, because I would feel as though you did not respect me enough as fellow human being to tell me the truth. Tell the truth. Lying is not normal. It is the easy way out.
2006-09-12 06:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in order to hurt someone. A little white lie every now and then is OK, you know if your just trying to get someone to stop paying attention to you, but to deliberately hurt someone...that is awful.
2006-09-13 01:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually speaking lying is n\very normal today.But when it comes to lying to for a genuine reason that u think they will get hurted badly then u can very well go ahead and lie to them.... but keep in mind that what u lied to them and try to maintain what u said coz if u reveal the truth then they will get hurted upto the core very badly..... very badly....
2006-09-13 02:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by usave54 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people it seems to be it is not really common among most.If you know someone who seems to not quite be truthful start pull away and put the relationship on a side note so that person is not your confidant but you can hang just know that they lie allot.
2006-09-05 02:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Florida Dawn 13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a white lie is okay, it is not good to hurt someone's feeling on purpose. Such as, do you like my hair? you actually hate it but can see they really like it. Just say it is nice or it is sooo you.
that is harmless and avoids an unnecessary battle.
2006-09-13 01:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋