actually i started my college nd from the very first day of my college i decided that i am not goin to involve in any relationship with any girl becos my school experience is not gud,but friends there is problem there is a girl in my college who is forcing me to establish relation,nd in college she always trying to hold me hand nd in class she wanted to, sit with me,look friend i feel so shy when she do all this thing,actually i can't explain u wat she is trying to do.today i also tell her that iam not interested but she said that i like u.friends i am not able wat is going on,y girls always trying to hurt my feeling,from my past i just feel that i am not goin to involve with any relationship.2morrow i have to reply,wat should i do.........pls help me friend
my heart says that she is gud
but i mind does not allow me accept her perposal
2006-09-05 02:26:33 · 23 answers · asked by sunny 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice, stay in college and forget about girls. You need the education.
2006-09-05 02:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't hurt to tell her that you just want to be friends. If you thnk that there might be somethng between the two of you then go for it. Your in college. So what if the girls will use you b/c guys use those girls too. Maybe she is different. JUst hold back from getting attached and too serious. 6 years ago I feel for this guy first glance at him. We messed around, partied, hung out together for a couple of years. Then something happened one day and we went our seperate ways for a while, I started dating someone else & the first time I seen that guy since then, my heart melted into my tummy. I was so scared of being hurt again that I just wanted to run away the oppostie direction. Then one day, I said to myslef you know, go by your heart and not by your mind... and that is what I did. I followed my heart and I have been with him for 3 years now. This is the happiest I have ever been. And I wouldn't change nothing about it. Good Luck. Ya never know it may just be worht trying out.
2006-09-05 02:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kasie Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want to be friends and you are not ready for a relationship if that's what she's loOKing for. If you don't say anything to her she will assume that it's ok to hold your hand. Tell her that you don't want a serious relationship with her and you would appreciate if she would just take you as a friend. She may feel hurt but then ..if you are not ready why would you let her force you to do something you don't want to do? speak your mind now.
2006-09-05 02:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry dude...u need to get over ur past and move on..
Try to start a friendship and be honest from the start that u only want to be friends....
u should be enjoying ur life and not worrying about all this deep stuff....life gets alot difficult as u get older...
Come on and try to give urself a chance....u never know something good may come out of it..
learn from ur past and let this make u stronger...
u should be able to deal with problems alittle more better too...
have faith in urself and u may be surprised at what u r capable of dealing with..
good luck!
2006-09-05 09:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well people always follow their hearts but if u doubts that anything good will come out of this relationship then it's better to tell her that u're not interested in a relationship with her..but don't let ur past experiences deprive u of something good because u're letting ur past relationships affect ur future..
2006-09-05 02:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by prifik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK SUNNY
she is in infatuation with u, everybody has to go through this phase of life, u have to b bold enough to tell any body what u Like and what u don't. if you don't want any relationship with her than straight away tell her that u r not interested in any relationship, if she wishes to b just your friends as others r, its ok otherwise say her good bye.
Always listen to your heart, b'coz it gives true message, but brain/mind will always calculate 4 profit n loss. till u will be listining to your heart u will not feel bad, once you started to listen to your mind you will always b in delima!!!!!!
Go ahead and have some HOSLA......
2006-09-05 02:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anil Verma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sunny is the day we figure it all out. Unfortunately we don't get to choose who we smitten too. Why not scope it out and keep your distance. As long as you are honest with her you don't have to get hurt and neither does she. Life (especially college) is about experiences and either you live it or you don't. Secluding yourself from the opposite sex so you wont get hurt though-is not going to get you any further in life just cause you wait a few years. Keep it casual and fun, but don't do it just cause of pressure.
2006-09-05 02:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that your not interested in being more than friends. If she's all over you, than you have one of two decisions to make: 1. Stay away from her, she can get you into a sticky situation. 2. Use a condom always, she can get you into a sticky situation. Either way, this girl sounds too pushy.
2006-09-05 02:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried concentrating on your lessons? Apparently not. Sorry to be harsh but if you're in college and spell and write that badly you need to forget about the girls and invest some time in your school work. Has our educational system degenerated that much?
In response to your question, if you're not ready for a relationship, tell her. If she doesn't get the message that's her problem not yours.
2006-09-05 02:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the girl is too forward.....U should be the one to grab hands like a gentleman.
Just tell her stop it when she grabs your hand.
Write a note would get to her brain faster.
If u are not ready , then tell her so.
When u do find the right one, u will make the move.
Chemistry will do it for ya.
2006-09-05 02:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋