Ladies, Ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

What would you do if you knew your man was communicating with his ex, the ex that he left for you but you know that he left her due to that you showed him more love and gave him sex all the time but you knew also that you and him fell into a quick relationship. The main point is that she is 400 miles away from you and him but he talks to her everyday and he tells you, you shouldn't worry about anything because you're with him and you drive his SUV and he comes home to you. Would you let this man go, even though you have done told him you can't tolerate this and he tells you he is a grown man and he can do whatever. Would you continue to be with him even though you are stressed over this situation and he has gotten to the point were you and him isn't really having sexual intercourse like usually. Help I need your advice? This man is going do what he wants to do no matter what I say to him, I have tried everything from advices on yahoo answers, neither one works should I just leave him?

Answer 1

Wow!!!!! You are in a similar situation that I was in about 2 years ago. My boyfriend and I broke up - we had a lot of problems, his father was dying, and then one day we broke up. He said that I wasn't giving him the love and attention that he needed, that all I did was nag and nag. Finally we broke up and I begged and begged for him to take me back. He would cry all the time telling me that he is going through stuff and for some reason he cannot take me back. He said that I had neglected him and he is pissed and hurt and won't take me back. This went on for a few months. Anyway he had a cellphone, it was another line to my account. I checked it everyday, and there was this one number that was on there constantly. I called the number and it was this girl, I asked him about the girl and he said that was one of his friends. A friend actually that he confided in. Someone he spoke to about me and someone he went to for advice about me. Anyway I believed him. I guess because everytime I called him he would pick up. Anyway everyone told me hey he is sleeping with her, and I didnt believe it. One day I decided to call her. I was scared that he would never speak to me again because I called her but I thought to myself hey I'm not even with him anymore, I begged for him to take me back and he didnt so what do I have to lose. I called her and found out he was with her. She was on the phone with me and then she said for me to stay on the line as she was on her way to pick him up. There he was -she told him everything and of course he called me going crazy. Basically he was with her, she showed him all the affection, love, etc. He left her a few months later because he regretted not being with me. We got back together and the only reason I took him back was because he did his dirt while we were split. Anyway the few months we were together he did call her a few times here and there and I told him to stop. And he didn't and I left. I apologize for the long story but I just wanted to let you know how I was in a similar situation. What I would do if I were you is leave. He sounds stubborn like my ex was. I understand he comes to you, etc. but you know what he needs to respect you. If he doesn't respect the fact that you don't like it then he doesn't really love you. Respect is important and that is why I did not stand for it!

Answer 2

I don't even understand what you are so worked up about. You can't just tell somebody not to speak to someone else. If she is 400 miles away and he talks to her over the phone everyday, who cares! If he was hanging out at her house, I'd be booting him but other wise it sounds to me like you should really chill girl. Perhaps he was with her for a long time and likes certain things about her in terms of conversation. Nothing wrong with that! From what you've written it just seems like you are destroying what was a very good relationship. Get over your jealousy! Perhaps it is your own confidence that is the real problem here!

Answer 3

Yeah, you put "ladies" on your title and guess who shows up?

Are you cute and at least 21? I could use a fling with a lady that I wouldn't want to keep around for too long. So you think women give sex to men, huh? lol That's how it is, ya? Driving his car has something to do with your relationship? You might be one of those women who's ego is tied to a relationship or power over a man. Did you learn relationship building from the gangbangers at your high school?

Answer 4

Wow. OK, here's what I suggest. Try again to CALMLY explain to him what you're feeling and why. Tell him that you're not trying to tell him what to do, but you're concerned about what this may do to your relationship if it continues. Out of respect to you, he should understand how you're feeling and at least minimize his communication with the ex, if not eliminate it completely. If he doesn't, then sorry to say, but you should ask yourself whether or not you want to be in a relationship who won't take your feelings into consideration. Relationships are suppose to be about compromise and if he won't compromise, that should give you an indication of the future you have with him. Only you can make your decision so good luck.

Answer 5

Stupid, Stupid, STUPID! He left her for you, and now you think that he will remain faithful? He has already proved to you that he can't be trusted. He probably resents you, because you are the reason he is not with her anymore. Wake up! If he didn't love her, he would have no contact with her whatsoever. He would be ashamed of leaving her and most likely avoid her like the plague. He is probably trying to figure out a way to get back to her right now. I can at least guarantee that is what she is trying to convince him to do. You deserve it, Homewrecker!

Answer 6

Only you can answer this question and if you read your question carefully I think you have already made up your mind.

Let me talk from experience. I am not a jealous person but I was seeing a guy who still used to hang around some of his female friends. He finished with one of them to see me, we broke up and before I knew it she was expecting his baby. Then there was another who he was friendly with, when we broke up people told me they were having a sexual relationship.

So, back to your dilemma . . . Are you in LOVE with him or do you just love him. You need to ask yourself do you have a future with this man or will he continue to do what he wants regardless, whether it annoys you or not. The way I see it you are living in his world and he will continue to do whatever he wants. Good Luck ;o)

Answer 7

My boyfriend does that sometimes. I don't worry about it because I understand that he needs time with his guys. We can't hang out all the time! I would definitely be understanding and let it go. As long as it's not an everyday occurence I think it's healthy to spend time apart.

Answer 8

Sounds like hes disrespecting you to me.If he cared at all how you felt about him talking to his ex then he would knock it off.He has no need what so ever to talk with her esppicially every day like you said.Too me it sounds like he really wants to be with her.If i were you i would sit down and have a heart to heart with him and find out his wants and that way you know what desicion you need to make.You shouldnt be taking second best to anyone.

Answer 9

I think you have to sit him down and tell him quietly and rationally how his communicating with the ex makes you feel. Keep it about you, nothing about him and certainly not accusing him of anything. He needs to know how you feel and once he knows that, the way he handles it will tell you whether you need to do. If he tells you flat out that he's going to keep communicating with her then he doesn't really care about your feelings and you need to make the decision to find someone who cares about you as much as you care about them.

Answer 10

leave if he really loved you he wouldn't want to communicate with an ex look even if you drive his car and she lives 400 miles away that doesn't mean he wont leave you to be with her