The man who has asked me to marry him is a Muslim from some middle east country, I don't remember where. He seems to have a lot of money and has showered me with expensive dinners, champaign, caviar, clothing, jewelry, limo rides, etc. I can just tell that he loves me by all the attention he gives me!
We are planning to marry next weekend in Vegas. We haven't really talked about religion, but my Christian faith is everything to me. Do you think we'll be able to get along together?
2006-09-05 02:10:28 · 23 answers · asked by Ask Donna 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let me tell you this cautionary tale. A good Jewish girl asked her mother's permission to marry an Arab man. The mother said, "No way will you marry one of those people!" But the daughter replied, "He has a lot of money from the oil business. He even said he would buy you and Dad a condo in Florida and give you $10,000 a month to live on." The mother then reconsidered. Six months later the daughter returned in tears, stating that she wanted to get a divorce. She said, "All my husband wants is anal sex, all the time! When we first got married, my anus was the diameter of a dime. Now it is the size of a silver dollar, from all the anal sex!." The mother said, "You mean you're going to get a divorce over 90 cents!"
2006-09-05 02:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
First, you don't marry anybody you don't really know. Remember people from different cultures have different beliefs when it comes to the roles of men and women. You don't know if he already has other wives, you don't know if he believes in corporal punishment of his wife, etc...
If you have children they will be considered Muslim even if you don't want them to be Muslim. Remember the movie "Not Without My Daughter" that wasn't as far fetched as some people believe.
Tread lightly, don't jump into marriage just because you want a man. Your self worth is not defined by having a man.
Why the hurry? Don't be fooled by material things, you may get into something that will be hell on earth.
Scripture warns about unequal yokes and that's for a reason, usually women are the ones who pay dearly.
Please, be very careful and very upfront with your beliefs to him. Let him know what you'll tolerate and what you won't.
I say don't do it, Americans or westerners haven't a clue about Middle Eastern cultures and some get into situations that they wish they hadn't.
Save yourself the grief, material things just aren't worth it.
2006-09-05 09:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by ViolationsRus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. if your Christian Faith is everything for you. The answer is not at all. Money isn't everything. God gives you life, opportunity and good health. What money can not buy??? The answer is too many. Money is a very basic needs in this life. I am a christian who live in most populous muslim country on earth. You have to convert your faith to be a muslim in order for you to be happy. if you can't, you know the answer. A wife for a muslim man is like their property for them. The man can come to their land any time regardless you like it or not. At this time your are not his wife yet, so he does not have that right yet. But if you are not a true Christian then marry him, when he behave differently like he promise before married, then took all his money and kick his *** off. Wach the movie " Not Without My daughter". if you decided to marry him, never never and never move out of USA, not even to visit his family in the middle east. His family can visit you in USA but it is not wise for you to visit his family in the middle east. TOO COMPLICATED. LIFE SHOULD BE EASIER THAN THAT.
2006-09-05 09:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by W N 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you aren't supposed to be unevenly yoked. it will cause a problem if kids are involved and everything because there is no way in hell either of you will see eye to eye on that. he will want them muslim you will want them christian. That i think is where most of the problems lies. In the end I am sure he will not provoke you to give up your faith in Christ but you have to remember he will be the head of your house and basically what he says goes even after you have discussed situations and etc. and come to a conclusion in the end... it is his decision in all matters just as it would be if he were chrisitian except religion as far as your kids are concerned is the big issue in my opinion. and to me I think the whole Vegas thing there is something odd about that. seems like a rush job and if it is rushed you better be careful and give it thought. you are about to paint yourself into a corner
2006-09-05 09:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see we are members of the same church, Landover Baptist Church!!! What a stroke of luck. I have been looking for another lady to trade recipes with and to set the occasional broken bone my Christian husband so graciously bestows upon me when I forget to be subservient. You know how silly we women can be, always forgetting who the lord and master is in our lives.
As far as your new master, I think you have made a good choice. Although I am not sure what a Muslim is, I seem to recall Preacher giving many sermons on the necessity of anniliating this group of terribly misguided souls in the name of Jesus. What better way to infiltrate than to marry one!!!! And look at the Percs of being married to a Muslim, a limo ride, oh you lucky, lucky girl. You must truly be the chosen to have such riches. And to think all you need to do to have it pass on to you, in the event of your husband's demise, is to have a son!!!! I do so hope you have male egg's in your "evil" place, otherwise you may have to fornicate many times with your master, and we know how evil that can be, especially when you get the slightest "twinge" down there, certainly satan's doings.
Now I must get on with my household chores, just thinking about your stroke of luck has given me "twinges" in my "evil" place, will these feelings never go away?!?! I pray and I offer myself to my husband for flogging but somehow they just continue and EGADS!!!seem to be worse after the flogging.
I will also ask my husband to write President Bush to ensure the President's cooperation to avoid bombing your new home. But being the fine Christian Lady you are I am sure the chance to meet Jesus even sooner would be a welcome respite. Amen and Peace, when it serves Jesus's purpose that is!!
2006-09-05 09:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, because your motives are all wrong, not to mention you are unequally yoked. Your motive is not the love of this Muslim man it is the love of his wealth. The bible states that money is the root of evil, i.e., not money per se, but the love of that money. The love of money may cause you to do things outside of your nature or moral character, for example, marrying a man who you know very little about, because he gives you a lot of "things".
The choice is yours, but it doesn't take a scholar to know how this one is going to end.
2006-09-05 09:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. B 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Islam means "peace" in Arabic language. If he is really a true Muslim then the religion difference is not going to be a big deal and maybe your life is going to be turn out a dream.
2006-09-05 09:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by blackeagle81 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes you can be happy.he will treat you like princess!there are many western non-muslim women who are married to muslim men in the gulf of Arabia.and the women live very comfortably.with nice houses and cars and the husbands are just so happy to have a woman from the west they will do anything to keep your affection for them.but just be prepared to have at least 3 kids.because arab men and women like to have big families.
good luck
2006-09-05 09:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The Bible says not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers. Also what part does darkness have with light?
I think this will be a problem. I have known some women with unsaved husbands. The men are good husbands, but the women wish that their husbands were saved, and said they'd never would do it again. The men are good, but the women aren't happy.
2006-09-05 09:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by RB 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Be careful ! If you want to be treated like a slave because you are a christian, yes go ahead. No, serious, of course you can marry him, if you really know that he loves you and if you really love him, but if he asks you to change your religion, I would think very, very carefully about the hole situation again my dear.
2006-09-05 09:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by George 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋