What should I do?

Question

I caught my ex of 3 years cheating,I ran into a friend of his one night and we seemed to hit it off.I was still bitter about my ex,he listened and understood.He drove me home that night and I invited him to stay,I asked him to sleep in the bed with me and put his arm around me,he was a complete genleman and made no moves.I saw him once since then,he came to me and said"your killing me".It has been 6 months since.My ex is still trying to get me back,I see a change in him(it has been over a year since)I recently have been thinking of taking him back,but I feel I will always have these what if's about his friend,because I still think about him.I dont want to go back to my ex and always wonder about his friend.What should I do?

Answer 1

I think its probably best for you to move on, three years is a large chunk of your life and if your ex wasnt greatful for that then he doesnt deserve another chance. If you feel a spark with this gentlemen friend then perhaps you should seek it further, jus to satisfy your curiosity and ensure u have no regrets later on if anything. Good luck

Answer 2

Too much water under the bridge with the ex...not sure what to tell you about the friend. I don't think a true friend would have went as far as he did....talk to you, listen, drive you home...fine, but stay with you and sleep in the same bed, not cool as a friend. I wouldn't try and get back with the ex, i feel like it will be a never ending uphill battle.

Answer 3

Personally, I won't take him back because you never know if he's going to do it again....because once someone cheat on another person they are on a urge to do it again so think about your decision wisely before taking him back....about his friend, if he makes you feel good then thats great but you have to think about the fact thats he's your ex's friend and it can cause trouble between your ex and his friend. I just think you need some time alone to get your mind right before making any decisions because if you see a change in you man then thats great because you probably know him inside and out if you been wit him for 3 years but just be careful because talk is talk but actions are different....keep us updated

Answer 4

I gave my ex another chance after he cheated on me, he said things would change... they did for a while but he ended up cheating again, so i dumped him.. It took me a while to get over him, but i did and now i have a very special man in my life. Never go back you will always wonder where he is or who he's with. Life's to short......

Answer 5

I wouldn't give your ex anymore of your time. Once a cheater always a cheater. Don't waste anymore days of your life thinking about him. Give his friend the benefit of the doubt and give him a chance he sounds like a great guy who knows how to treat a lady! Good luck with your decision!

Answer 6

If you get back with your ex your always going to have the "wonders." I say go and find his friend and see what happens between the two of you.

Answer 7

Question yourself first, if it's not a getting-back-at-your-ex-feeling towards the friend. Because you obviously still have feelings for him (your're wondering whether you will go back to him).

Answer 8

I agree with your first answerer. See what happens with the friend. Usually, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 9

You could go back to your ex and live the life you used to..........or you could try something new, ur afraid that if you dont take ur ex back u might never get him back again.

beleive me hun, if you are still thinking of his friend then you should let his friend know and see wat he thinks about it.

it could go either way and then at least you will still have the choice of going back to your ex. it sounds cruel........but hey thats life!

Answer 10

move on ... your ex is unfaithful .... pursue a relationship with the friend but take it slow ... be sure he really is into you before you move on to a sexual relationship