my 2 1/2 yr old daughter just wont listen to discipline. i also have a five yr old son and she taunts him and hits him. he cant sit and do anything without a fight. she climbs on things, rips things, and just generally terrorises the household. we all breathe a sigh of relief when she goes to bed. if i send her to her room, she just laughs at me. i've tried 'time out' on a naughty chair but she thinks that is a game. im really losing patience with her.
2006-09-05 02:00:31 · 25 answers · asked by arnboze 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First of all CONSISTENCY. Memorize that word. The reason she laughs at you is she knows you're going to change the discipline pattern, you've allowed her to gain control. Pick ONE form of discipline and stick with it. Don't go from time out to , to sending her to her room, to whatever. Pick ONE, and use it Over and over and over and over and over and over and over. You are the one who turned it into a game by changing it. She is basically going through the "terrible twos". And you're letting her be in control...of course it's a game to her...she WINS.
2006-09-08 22:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't vote for spanking a child - especially a 2 yr. old. I feel that makes the child gets more annoying. This normally happens with the second child - could be due to lack of attention or too much of attention. Try to ignore her bad behaviour (unless she does something dangerous that might hurt herself or somebody else badly). Try not to talk to her whenever she does something bad - that would include the whole house - boycott her.
But do not forget to praise her, promote her good actions.
good luck and do let me know if it helps.
PATIENCE is the key word. These are their growing years. Do not send a wrong signal that hitting is okay if you don't get heard.
2006-09-07 14:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anjali A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the advice I gave to someone else, but it seems to fit your question.
Be consistent in your time outs, discipline. If you're not, she'll be confused as to when she can get away with something and when she can't. Also, I hear many parents make threats that they have no intention of following through on ("If you don't stop, you won't go to Disney with us" - What are you going to do?-Cancel your family vacation? ?) Then the child learns not to believe you. One other thing: don't get sucked into arguing with your toddler. It's easy to get frustrated and fall into that trap. When you're upset or frustrated with your daughter, remain calm and just reiterate what you want her to do. If she doesn't comply, tell her you'll help her, then help her to do it hand over hand if necessary. You can give her a choice of doing it by herself, or you'll help her. Either way, it gets done. Don't give her negative attention if she tantrums or acts up. Sometimes children act out for attention, even if it's negative attention. I work with children with behavior problems. These techniques are quite effective even for children who don't have behavior problems. Good luck.
2006-09-05 22:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by cindy1323 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take away antyhing that is fun for the child. Then you need to be firm and show her that you are the boss and she is the kid. Time out works in a safe room with no toys in it.
I had this issue with my child, and I found that being consistent, like a borken record drove her to behave for the extras in life.
Starting today, I would strip her of anything that gives her pleasure. Sounds horrible, but you need to difuse the situation, and gain your power back. If you show her who is boss, and to behave for the things that gives her pleasure then she will get the hint that there is a consequence for good behaviour and bad ones.
So today take away everything including those special treats, tv shows....everything. Tell her that when she behaves and is a "good girl" then you will reward her. Take it back if you need to. It's a game at first. It will sink in.
2006-09-05 09:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mariah&Lydias_Mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
umm let try spanking!!! I spank my son who is the same age. if they wont listen i am going to spank him. Words dont mean jack to a 2 year old. And why send them to there room theres just lots of toys in there. Dont give in if you give them what they want then they wont listen either cause they know if they just fight you for a little while they get what they want.
2006-09-05 11:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot discipline a 2 year old but you can reward good behavior.
For example, if she likes to watch tv, switch the tv off and hold the remote, if she behaves well then she gets to chose the channel if not you choose ( hey mom, pick something boring).
If she behaves well then she gets to decide what she has to eat, if not then nothing (one meal wount hurt) and will also stop faddy food behavior.
Golden rule for mom, always talk quietly, try even whispering so that she has to come close to hear. never ever shout
2006-09-05 09:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nimbus 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hang in there it'll be O.K., as soon as you learn to beat the hell out of her!
No, seriously if if spanking her doesn't work sticking to what you say. If you tell her to go to her room and she laughs, let her laugh in her room. Leave her in there until she wants to come out, and that's when the timer starts. Let her cry and pout for a while, so that she'll realize that its not fun to get sent to your room, its punishment. Your daughter hasn't learned the difference in play and punishment.
2006-09-05 10:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lt. Harris 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truth be known, your daughter needs a good old-fashioned proper spanking. You asked, I answered. Time to rein her in mom. I think the worst thing a parent can do with a spoiled rotten child is to coddle and cater to them.
2006-09-05 10:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Frugalmom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try the taking away her things route. The follow up to that is talking with her and explaining things. Some of her acting out may be frustration and she doesnt understand your actions.
2006-09-07 16:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by mammamugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a real problem. Cut out fizzy drinks, sweets and artificial colours.
I think you may need professional help and should visit your GP and ask to see a specialist. It could be the "terrible twos" but this sounds extreme.
Set boundries and everyone must stick to them. If she starts to misbehave you may need to physically pick her up and make sure she stays in "the naughty place". I used to stand mine outside the back door no matter what the weather until they settled down.
Don't shout but talk quieter and quieter when she starts.
2006-09-05 09:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by Storm Rider 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋