This man in his late 50's is a doctor right across my new home.He used to have a crush on my mum years ago before she married my dad, and now he is calling me. He is a quiet person, who smokes way too much, and makes suggestive remarks. He isnt a family friend, what should i do? It scares me.
2006-09-05 01:55:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Sexual harassment is not excused because someone is supposedly a "family friend." You should tell your parents this is going on and if you are underage, a police report is also in order.
One thing, and this is true in any sort of harassment, is that you need to make it clear to this man that his attention is unwanted and unreturned and that you want it to stop. Otherwise, they can claim you were "flirting back." (If you are a minor, you shouldn;t have to do this, a parent or other adult should confront the jerk.)
You might want to record any phone conversations as well.
Your good instincts are why you are scared, because he's bad business. Please involve your parents as soon as possible, and if for some reason they won't take it seriously, go to the police yourself.
2006-09-05 02:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Odds are he's just lonely, but with that being said... You are going to have to be firm on this one before it gets completely out of hand. First, just make sure he understands completely that his remarks are making you uncomfortable and you would appreciate it he could find it within himself to cease immediately. Odds are that will make your point and he will stop calling. If he refuses then you must be speak a little more firmly make sure he knows he is not to call any longer. Then if he continues obtain an Ex Parte order of protection, including phone calls. You need to exhaust all options before you take this approach though. If not then your request could be denied, (most likely not, but it is possible).
But honestly he is probably just lonely. Maybe if the requests work then you could try helping him get involved in senior activities, where he could meet new people and that would help curb any future behavior. Just an idea. Good luck!
2006-09-05 03:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, at this age.. most people are looking for nothing more than friendship.. someone to talk with, share a bit of their life with. Relive part of their youth with..
Be straight forward when he marks his suggestive remarks, and say thank you, but I'm not interested.. and please, say it with respect. You won't understand now, but you will later one - in life.
Be cordial..kind. But do let him know you're not looking for a relationship.. however, a slight friendship would be alright.. or if you're not inclined for a friendship.. where you say hello when passing on the street, or checking in just to see how someone is doing, then be honest about that as well.
2006-09-05 02:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by sassy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yuck! Tell him firmly to stop making suggestive remarks and to leave you alone. If he doesn't respect that, then get an harrassment order against him.
2006-09-05 02:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Satinette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's creepy. this sounds like a lifetime movie. i would suggest nipping this in the bud now. don't worry about trying not to be mean to him. it sounds like he's not exactly dwelling in the realm of normalcy, if he comes across as scary, so i'm not sure i'd entertain ANY of his conversations. tell him off. that's all i can suggest.
2006-09-05 02:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. you may have to avoid this man all times.
2. do let your friends, relatives know about this man and the way he behave that you feel is threatening you
3. you may have to listen to what he has to say. he is your neighbour anyway. you can take your man or friends or relatives to talk to him. listen to his words very carefully. if it sounds bad to you then there is no point being good to him.
2006-09-05 23:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him up front that you find him mucho creepy and that if he keeps it up he can expect a haggard kick in the pants or you call the fuzz on his grimey as$
2006-09-05 01:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to stop contacting you, and stop taking his calls.
If he persist press charges for aggrivated harassment and get an order of protection.
2006-09-05 02:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Report the perv to the Police and try to get some evidence , a Dictaphone is use-full.......
2006-09-05 01:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew!
I would avoid him at all costs.
Also try the shock factor. Come straight out and say "Look, please dont hit on me, you are old enough to be my father and I am quite repulsed."
If he continues after THAT, I would report him!
2006-09-05 02:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋