to live with me and kid. Because of this two elder brothers and my brother's wife is not speaking to me. Whether this will end or not. Again happiness will prosper between our brothers. As my wife is not at all happy with my elder brother. Please let me know.
2006-09-05 01:54:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your wife should always come first, but your brothers are blood so it is very easy to feel in the middle. Your brothers are adults and should have their own life. I know it is very easy to feel upset when your spouse dislikes your family. Perhaps you need to visit your brothers without your wife. I just do not believe in cutting off your family ever if possible because who would be there if your wife is gone??Does she have a reason to feel that way and is it justified? Hang in there. Good luck.
2006-09-05 01:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Patti Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to see both your wife and brothers - relationship
More important for your family i.e. wife, children, etc. If you do not look that you are loosing a lot
At the same time you have to keep relation with your brother, brother's wife, their children and your parents, etc.
You have to also keep relation with your wife's relatives - that is family life - enjoy it.
But some times - it will not be possible at all due to certain situations - still you do not forget the above points.
The situations, will change as the time go ahead - keep off for some time and bear with the present prevailing situation and later start connecting all people together one by one as much as possible.
Tell your wife and make her understand the situations and difficulties - Most of the ladies do not understand as Man understand a family life - that is why some ladies are leaving their husband, children, house etc. going with somebody - It is also happening because of the situations!!!!!!
Do not treat directly !!!!!!!!!! treat the situation.
If your wife do not understand what you say - do not talk to her much - do what do you want to by making the situation better. Do not run after your wife for chasing/consent in this situation - you have to build up your family life as you are the Father and Head of the Family - tomorrow nobody will come to ask your wife what happened to your family life. You have to judge yourself - as man.
Do not think of small things like your wife think. Give important to important things - leave small things beside. If you want to cut someing cut - do not half cut or half shave.
Think what you take dicision, it should not hurt your wife, children and family life.
Do not take immediate dicisions !!!!!!!!
Take care, be patience as the situation will keep on changing through-out the family life, but you do not change.
Enjoy a happy family life!!!!!!!!!
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2006-09-05 02:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by SA-bic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should begin by having a frank talk with your wife, explaining that the separation from your brothers is causing you pain. Are there particular reasons she does not like them? Do they have to do with her or with them? If you can find the reasons, can anything be done to eliminate them by dealing with the causes? You say your brothers and your brother's wife do not speak to you. Can your wife be persuaded to set up a joint family? You would obviously like that--or so I think. It is a question of reconciling what you want with what your wife wants. Then too can your brothers be pesuaded to accept the fact that your wife wants to live apart from them? Delicate feelings require a delicate touch. A frank conversation may not solve the problem but it will at least be a beginning. Your unhappiness and your wife's wishes in the matter obviously conflict. Can you remove the conflict through patient talk and understanding?
2006-09-05 02:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by tirumalai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is a tough one, specially when are little kids involved. Their mother is an irresponsible one. He can get in touch with the kids and if he really loves them, reassure them, that no matter what, they can always count on him. Also to let them know that the fact that him and their mom are separated or going on different ways, is not their fault.He can ask the kids if they want to see him to tell their mother, and then plan something together and comply with. I don't think he can go to court and fight for their custody,unless the children had been adopted by him. If he wants to, he can check with a family law attorney, or any other legal aid in your state.I say this,'cause the kids could be in danger, or neglected by their mother. If love ties exist and the kids are OK to continue that relationship, I don't think there is reason to cut ties, including grandma. They need all the love and support available.
2016-03-17 08:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad these other people understand cause you got me lost on this one.
Why are you not living with your wife and child to begin with? Are you living with your brothers and their families and now she wants to move in? Is the house big enough for all you people? Whose house is it? Theirs a lot more information needed in your question. But ask yourself this, Whose gonna keep you company in bed at night your brothers?
2006-09-05 02:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always very difficult to choose between your wife n your family. I can understand the bad time you are going throgh. All the best to you. Hope you get good solution peace of mind thr this situation.
2006-09-05 02:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by santra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will improve and you need to give time for yr wife & take her in to confidance & try to know, what irritates her more.
You will get to know from her & than U can take yr steps slowly towards settling this issue.
2006-09-07 21:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Vijaypappu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to ask to your self than any body else.
Wife and brothers are two separate relations u should learn how to tackle with both never interfere in the dealing of any and just try work like a bridge between them, also try to appreciate them in front of others and themselves. try not to criticise any body. Just try to understand there feelings and try to express yours.
Neither of them are wrong its the circumstances which is responsible..............................
In short its the only u and u who can do this, bleive yourself
and never say die..................................
2006-09-05 03:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anil Verma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wives will come and go but brothers and sisters are there to stay. Don't let your spouse come between your family.
2006-09-05 02:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by miramira 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
blood is thicker than water.You need to find your brothers and apologize for whatever you did to them.And you need to tell your wife to stop controlling you.Set your foot down and tell her that you are reconnecting with your brothers they are your blood and you love them and want them to be a part of your life.She has no right to keep you from your family.
2006-09-05 02:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋