When a man is not working and his girlfriend is and gives him money or offer gifts, the former refuses. I want to know why that cos my guy is doing the same thing
2006-09-05 01:43:57 · 16 answers · asked by Queeny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What your guy needs from you is not money or gifts. If you really like him and want to help him, you should be encouraging him in his efforts to get a job. Make sure that he does not lose his self-esteem. His refusal indicates that he still has his self-esteem, so it is a good show of his integrity. Praise him for his confidence in himself and let him know that you are very sure that his unemployment is only temporary. Because of your confidence in him, you are sticking with him. I think your man has a good future. Don't give up on him!
2006-09-05 02:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by koons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because love you have a nice bloke there!. Even if he is out of work he still has his pride, and doesn't want you to think that you are only there as a meal-ticket, believe me there are plenty of blokes out there that would grab every penny you give them and even expect you to pay for everything - I've met them. So count yourself lucky, your bloke seems like a nice guy who won't take advantage of you, he is just having a bad time just now, stick with him and encourage him - he will get another job.
Take care.
2006-09-05 01:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by muffymermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if the situation was reversed? Pride is part of the answer but so is self-esteem. Society views the defination of an adult as one who can provide and be independent. Be happy that your boyfriend wants to provide for himself and not use you. The best way to support him is just to be there for him. It's sometimes hard to do.
2006-09-05 01:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because of pride.He figures he the man the woman shouldnt have to help him.And if hes not working he may feel useless and dosent want handouts because he feels hes not adequate enough.Its a bunch of macho crap really.
2006-09-05 01:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male pride, their mentally is he is the provider cause he is a man. If you offer things to him, its like you are saying he is not man enough!
2006-09-05 01:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pride. Then again we know for everything we receive, we must give back. So when it all goes to hell, we don't want to hear "Remember when I got you." or "That belongs to me" When we buy girls thing, we don't care if you keep, we are more detached.
2006-09-05 01:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pride.
2006-09-05 01:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by I Sleep Easy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well That's Men For You!
2006-09-05 01:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me personally i have alot of pride but i dont like taking anything from anyone i guess u can say it is "he doesnt want to feel useless"
hope i helped
2006-09-05 01:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by seth c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋