I have been with my bf on and off for 2 years. We have been on now for over a year. I had a hard time with trust but I was starting to trust him again. He recently broke up with me. I want to work things out but he keeps saying nothing will change but I know it will. He said at one point after we broke up that he loved me. He told me that he still wanted to talk to me and be my friend then the next minute he never wanted to talk to me again. I dont know what to do. Why does he keep talking to me if he does not still care about me? I never meant to hurt him. I wish i could change what i did but i cant. I did not cheat on him. I checked his voicemail out of the blue and chewed him out bc of someone that called him. I know it was stupid but i dont want to lose him out of my life. we talked about marriage and having kids. he knows i tried to change but it was not good enough. what should i do? i still love him
2006-09-05 01:40:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is best to give your boyfriend some space, instead of crowdin in on him like checkin his mail.
You dont own your boyfriend, he has his own world and thoughts and feelings. If u love him, trust him no matter who he get mail from.
If he dont love you, then you need to let him go.
He is talkin to you because u have built some kind of bond.
Either drop him or show him respect and tell him u love him and cant live without him.
Remember, there are more fishes in the deep blue sea
2006-09-05 01:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just give up on this guy and move on. Look how he is treating you. And if you can't trust him I'm sure it's because he has given you plenty of reasons not to. And when you did check his voicemail, sure enough there was a call that obviously upset you. Why should you try and change? It sounds like he has convinced you that you are the bad one that needs to change. All he is doing is turning things around on you and blaming you for everything, when he is the one who is doing wrong. I know a couple guys just like him. And to tell you the truth, it becomes almost impossible to be friends with them on down the road because they like to come and go and use you anyway they can. It's hard to give up on talking to someone that has been a big part of your life for 2 years. And it sounds like he's not burning any bridges. And that's because he wants to be sure he can come back if other things don't work out. He's the type that also likes to be able to stop by one night and get some if he doesn't have anything better to do, right? I guarantee you, I lived with your boyfriend's type for 7 years. Got rid of him 1 1/2 years ago, but he will never go away. When things don't go his way he shows up here, when he's broke he shows up here, etc., etc. I don't love him, but they can make you feel sorry for them. Then you help them out and the minute they don't need anything else from you, they don't even have time to call. If you have a big, soft heart like me, this guy will use you up. It took me awhile to wise up and quit feeling bad for him, but it got old and I was sick of him hanging around. But the real kicker was when I actually added up all the money he owed me, and how little he had actually paid me back. Now he acts like he paid it all back.
Believe me, he is just stringing you along, just in case. Wise up and get out now. It really sucks to care for a guy like this, but it does eventually turn into resentment if you don't get away. Good luck to you.
2006-09-05 02:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to go through this. He isnt as serious about you as you are with him. He has you wrapped around his little finger, If he wants you he knows where to find you. Your sitting and waiting on him. How lucky for him. He can run around and have his fun while you are waiting for his call. Hey how about dumping him for a change, reverse the situation. Hes not ready for a dating relationship, let alone marriage. You need to let him go, live your own life, you'll find someone special for you. He isnt it.
2006-09-05 01:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him, but it seems he doesn't know what he wants. If he really loves you he will go through everything you've done (except for e.g. cheating on him). What if you get married and have kids with him and the next year he decides he does not like to go on with you. What then? My advice is: do not waste time with him. You deserve true love.
2006-09-05 02:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by twiny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET STRONG AND FORGET HIM!! i dont want to hear but i still ove him!!! hes playing games with you and im sure you didnt do anything wrong...hes just looking for an excuse to move on. and as long as you let him keep in contact with you,,hes going to. last words.....N E X T
2006-09-05 01:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him.never meet a person even he is your bf which break heart.he is not care of you.he just timepass with you.leave him and find friend which care of you and never break your heart.
Never meet him.when he talk with you.not respond good.he understand all thing.and in life never contect with him.
2006-09-05 01:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by ketan patel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just leave him alone and give it sum space between da two of yall and should work out for better or worse
2006-09-05 02:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by shawty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you were meant to b friends not loves or partners???????? or maybe he is scared of the M word, marriage?
2006-09-05 01:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by michele_aponte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my answer for years of dating experience. Screw him.
2006-09-05 01:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what you need to do is move on, he left you once he will do it again and again till he's satisfied with what he wants...
gl
2006-09-05 01:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl17017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋