I need some general rules and some specific examples. I don't really think it means that she should wait on him hand and foot, but I don't really know what it looks like for a woman to be submissive. Can anyone help me with this? Serious answers only, please.
2006-09-05 00:49:38 · 21 answers · asked by cldb730 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
big_p needs to get dressed for school, he's late lol.
It means that she accepts that the husband is the one who makes the final decisions in where the family is headed, such as spiritually. Even practical decisions, such as what area to live in, etc., are his to make. This is a lot of responsibility for a man, as he not only makes the decisions, he's responsible for the outcome of those decisions.
This in no way means he should ignore or do without his wife's input, if he's a smart man. Also, if he's smart, he'll leave the running of the home to his wife, as indicated in Proverbs 31, verse 18 to wherever the chapter ends.
In this day, people jump into marriage because of their emotions without looking to see the practical side of things. A woman should ask herself before she marries a man "Can he make good judgements? Does his life so far reflect that? Is he a man who can accept responsibility for what he does?" Likewise, a man should ask himself if his future intended can provide good advice and "speak with the voice of wisdom and reason".
All too many times I see a woman marry a man who cannot be responsible, then she tries to be submissive to him. It doesn't work that way, and she winds up failing.
2006-09-05 01:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi cldb730,
Here's a real answer!
To respect him and never Question his ability to lead you. That is why you Get marriaged to trust the man to make good choices if you don't Trust him And You disrespect him first he will close up than Go into depression until some other women gets him out of it. Never make a man feel you won't do any thing he say. Once he see you'll can do anything he say trust me He'll feel like a MAN and from than on he will just Try to please you most of the time. Men like to make Girls that are rebelous submit. The secret is submisive Girls Have More control in Relationships than unsubmisive girls. IT like A Bible rule: Jesus said "He who is least among you shall be the greatest!"
Peace!!!
2006-09-05 08:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Genesis 18 : 12 ( Sarah thought of her husband as her lord, in her heart)
Genesis 20 : 12 ( The husband should listen to and consider deeply the words of his wife, thus making it easy for her to be submissive)
Proverbs 5 : 1 - 23 ( The husband should NEVER be unfaithful to his wife.)
Proverbs 18 : 22 ; Proverbs 21 : 19 (Good wife :); nagging wife :()
Proverbs 31 : 10 - 31 (Wives are hard working)
Most of all, READ Ephesians 5 : 21 - 33
It takes both husband and wife to work together to make a good marriage.
2006-09-05 08:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
many people are confused on this & it took me quite a lot of prayer & biblical research to come up with this answer for myself: I am my husband's helpmate & that means that to submit, I still have an opinion, but I'm considerate & intelligent & think about when & how I time it & don't just blurt it out due to my emotions; it means I accept it if he doesn't accept my opinion right then or sometimes ever; it means I accept that I trust LORD more than myself. the one who submits is actually very strong, contrary to popular belief. It's subduing your flesh & being led by the Spirit & LORD honors that. It has nothing to do with being a "waitress" in your home, but in love to do things for your spouse is beautiful & it ends up being reciprocal.
2006-09-05 08:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by finallyfree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here is the thing read these versus in context and disregard the divisions like chapter and verse. Those were added by man. Just b4 it says be submissive one to another, so it means met his need. Here's the rub. Men need to be respected and being rather inept and interpreting abstract signals it may be difficult to help him understand that he is respected. He understands that he is respected if you do what he says. Other ways to show himwill be way more difficult. Women need to be loved men are not that interested in love but need respect. You can manipulate that to your own fancy but in the end these are the facts. That does not mean let him beat you or sarve you but if you feel loved then he is doing his part and if he is not feeling respected then you are not sharing his burden and it is his not yours.
2006-09-05 07:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you follow the Muslim faith and you are devoted to Islam then submission would mean:
1- Being beaten in public by him on any whim
2 - Forced to wear the Jet Black One Size fits all stylish
Burka in 106 degree weather
3 - Being Stoned to death for the mere suspicion of adultery
4 - Holding still while your Muslim husband mutilates your
genitalia on your wedding night
5 - Remaining silent unless spoken to
Ahhh the joys of Islam and the marital bliss of submission of Muslim women to their enlightened, kind husbands!
2006-09-05 08:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by B'klyn Barracuda 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why are you asking this question? This is my take on it:
There is submissiveness in everyday life and then there is submissiveness in bed. The latter is "ok" on a part-time basis, like for role-playing and stuff. Everyday life would be waiting on him hand and foot, the way women were treated in the fifties, and also being submissive in bed. Who would want to be submissive in everyday life? NOT ME!
2006-09-05 07:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
What it means is you should marry someone who you know you could respect their decisions in matters of the home, religion, children, etc. You are to be therir partner but give the final control over to them. Having said that. It is a husbands duty to treat his wife with respect and to submit his body to her as she is to him. He is to be the religious leader of the home and make sure the family is taught religion properly as to their faith. He is to treat his wife as the Lord treats his temple. There should never be any abuse, as that is not what love was made for.
2006-09-05 08:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by mortgagegirl101 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I would better say obedient, not submissive..
In Islam woman has to obey her husband, he will give her love, care, respect and protection. It does not mean she behaves like a slave. But for example, if he is asking her to cover her hair or wants her to sit at home and watch house... she has to do it
2006-09-05 08:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by Suomi 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Jesus submitted even to his enemies. I don't believe you should submit to anything which is against the law of God. But, you should do the house wife thing.
If you marry a converted Christian, he will treat you properly, and take the burden from you whenever he can.
2006-09-05 07:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sky_blue 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋