what can i do not to fill unconfort??
2006-09-05 00:48:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be confident and stop kicking yourself in the butt, lifes too short to be shy. Go ask her to go out somewhere nice and be a real man.
2006-09-05 00:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation.
Many will tell you to be strong, confident, etc., etc., blah, blah javez.
This answer is not one that will be widely accepted, but I offer it anyway.
You must understand that you are uncomfortable and that you are wanting to speak to a girl who makes you feel shy. If she didn't mean something to you it wouldn't really matter, would it?
But she does mean something to you and so it does matter.
Okay, now for the hard part.
Being a man means that you put aside emotions like fear, doubt, the need to be comfortable and understand that you have power because you are a man.
You are a man who will push through disturbing emotions because you want something and you are going to get it. In this case, a woman.
Do not be afraid to be a man. Don't be afraid to be embarrased. Do not think that you have to be comfortable to get what you want.
This answer may seem harsh to you, but the harsh reality is that no woman wants a man who is afraid that he is going to mess up everything. Women don't mind TOO much when a guy messes up everything because they believe that we are basically stupid anyway, but they DO mind a doubtfull, timid, scairdy cat man.
You are a man. Just speak to her. Mess everything up if you must, but just be a man.
It'll be okay. You will be fine.
Be a man.
She will love you for it.
2006-09-05 01:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common to speak in awkward way to someone you like. To overcome this, just treat her like someone normal in a mind that you can loose her anytime. The effect will be better and you would be able to pass across what you really wish to say. Good luck
2006-09-05 00:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just write down your thoughts and exactly what you want to tell her. Write down again and again until you are confident then keep practising and then pray and go confront her. If your not really sure then divert your mind to something else which is really hard. Best of luck man take care we'll pray for you
2006-09-05 00:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by bluedolphin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you will be shy but don't so worry about it. Firstly, you can talk to her about her school, her hobbies,,,, sth like that and then you can find out more information about her from her friends. You can make friends with her close friend and ask sth about her. Be sincere and I think she will be ur friend and ... more.
Good luck
2006-09-05 00:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Thuy Nguyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop yourself every so often and take a good look back at everything in front of u. Coz wen u really like someone, u can get too eagerly drawn in in attentiveness or b nervous and stumble. Try to remember that she's probably wonderign wat ur really thinking too. dont worry
2006-09-05 01:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by thiklikmeyow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't overthink it. Try to talk to her somewhere you can feel comfortable (not tons of people around);avoid pre-planning exactly what to say and just let the conversation happen. Good luck.
2006-09-05 00:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
practice what u are going to say first. if you like the girl, get the scoop that she likes you too. and if she doesnt its ok. talking to her will bring up your relationship. talk about things that interest her. but not like make up and girly things because then she'll think your gay! lol Good Luck! =]
2006-09-05 00:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by angela :D ! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember to breathe. Just think of it as talking as friends, that should help. If not, then write her a note, or email.
2006-09-05 00:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by bigbearsbaby01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink some Tequila and tomorrow you gonna find out how you did from your mam.
2006-09-05 00:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋