why do children never do what they are asked to do first time?

Question

This isant big bad birmzz

Answer 1

because they're children and they need guidance.

Answer 2

For much the same reason that a lot of successful businesperson will never listen to you/return your calls/et cetera the first time - on the basis that if it's important you'll say it/call again.

Growing children need boundaries and so seek them out. As a parent you will ask them to do a lot of things, but they will not know which are important and which are not. As such a simple test is to not do what you ask the first time and if you ask again (or shout at them) then they'll know it is important, and hopefully do it on subsequent occasions.

Answer 3

I don't know,I wish I did know,my 8 year old needs to be told 5 times plus sometimes,my three year old is much better but even so sometimes it takes a couple of attempts!
Being a parent is the most frustrating thing in the world sometimes(and I did a very pressurised job that was easier)
But all that said,I wouldnt change them for the world and I find being a frustrated parent very rewarding!

Answer 4

Ha ha, I think this is built into all children, never to do what they are asked the first time. Maybe they think if they ignore you, you won't ask again. I bet if you said 'do you want to go to the shops to buy some sweets, or do you want to go to the cinema/go bowling etc' they would hear the first time.

Unfortunately I think its just what children do, and its not worth get cross over it, as it only winds us parents up. I know mine are always testing the boundaries.

Good luck

Answer 5

I ask my kids the same question every day, and their answer is the same as mine... I don't know!!!
If I ask my kids to do something,,, I'm on them till they do it. My husband and others get annoyed and try to do it for them, which to me is saying to the kids that if they hold out long enough, they won't have to follow through..Just what we need,, a world full of people sitting around waiting for someone else to do it for them. My job as a parent is to teach my kids how to survive in the world and take care of themselves.. if it makes me seem like a mean mom at times I don't care, my kids tell me everyday that they love me and that's all that matters!!!

Answer 6

It's because their brains are not yet developed . their ego is self indulged .
there is not much you can do , but stay on top and keep reminding them .
Otherwise self indulgence will become a habit rather than part of development .
if they don't respond ask them again , try not to loose your temper it wont make a difference.
Gee I think I should take some of my own advice

Answer 7

Children are constantly testing their boundaries. You have to set them at an early age, to teach them right from wrong. They need to know what you expect of them and then do it. DOn't be wishy washy about anything. Stand your ground, so that they will know that when you ask them to do something, you mean it. There should be ramifications if they don't. Take away allowance, provelages, etc. Do not use violence.

Answer 8

My two sons are the same, I have even had thier ears checked incase they had some serious wax build up, which they did'nt. So i guess it is some selective hearing thing.

Answer 9

some do but there are very few of them.

Most dont understand what right and wrong is and you have to be a very good mummy and or daddy and then the will get the drift

Answer 10

Cause they are put here to try us! and it works. If I have to get to the third time my daughter knows shes in deep do do!

Answer 11

Because as a child there is nothing more fun than defying your parents and seeing how far you can push them before they snap :)

Its all about growing up and defining boundaries .. just as we do in later life with work, friends etc except as a child you are far more blatant about everything...and its fun :)