how can i ????
2006-09-05 00:07:34 · 25 answers · asked by richard b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like it's definately over - move on.
Might be good to talk to her first to make sure that this is her true feelings - just in case there's been a degree on "interpretation" - but taken as read, get up again and move on.
2006-09-05 00:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/FT7kf
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 21:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's been going on for a while.
Has she taken out the restaining order yet? I know you think you will love her forever and all that. . . I suppose you can try to ask her directly but if she doesn't want to talk to you again, that is usually a pretty clear message.
You wil survive. There are other women out there and one will work out for you. What you are going through right now is just a feeling. I know you feel you will never be loved again or she is the only one for you and all that. You will get over it. This won't make it hurt less but just know every human being over the age of 5 experiences this, maybe younger.
2006-09-05 00:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/ZRaF1
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-30 19:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by laurinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry my friend but you're just gonna have to let her go. I've told a couple of people on here that you can't force someone to love you no matter how hard you try. I really believe that, give yourself time to heal then move on with the rest of your life.
2006-09-05 05:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest it will be better if you just leave her alone because you cannot force anyone to love you or be with you,its a natural process and has to happen naturally and if she doesnt want to be with you and she hates you then why do you want to waste your time behind such a woman,dont you think you deserve someone better who would love and respect you and your feelings equally?think and think wise!!by forcing and sticking you'll make her hate you more,just dont loose your dignity and self confidence,if you guys are meant to be together,you'll definately get bcak or else just accpet the fact and move on...good luck!!
2006-09-05 00:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i also say that words to a friend, actually one of my very dear friend,.. becos of ,.....jealousy! yeah u read it right, becos we simply classify our relationships as 'special' so all the while i thought that i am the only special girl in his life , not until he meet this girl ( hu huh hu! )
of course at first i was hurt, it hurts u know, thst why i say that words too, not until i realized my misbehaving and take extrra effort to get him back and keep our friendship, thou he has his girl now.. but the jealous feeling is over! its just a friendly jealousy after all....ok! hope you have been enlightened! :)
2006-09-05 00:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by candee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love her dont ever dare to quite trying, send her a msg, call her and try to calm her down, send her something a note secritly without writing ur name but make her know that is u how send it in some how, dont giveup ask ur self do i really want her and then go on..
2006-09-05 00:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by shy80guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think Id kinda take the hint hun! move on. Goodluck
2006-09-05 00:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Irishbird3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time and effort chasing someone who doesn't want you. It's time to move on. Plenty more fish in the sea and all that.
2006-09-05 00:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by David S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋