I met this guy, who I loved with all my heart. we ones discussed about getting married and having children. surprisingly one day he told me he had another woman who he wants to marry. I decided to live him. but then he came back to me to say he still love me so we shud gv another chance. We dont live in the same city. One weekend he said he'll visit me. He arrived but never called me, but god is great I saw him on the way driving a car I dont with someone I couldnt see properly. I called him immediately but he couldnt speak he said he would call me later. he called me but he rejected that I didnt see him and that he was not driving the car I saw. After a bit of fight he cut the line. since then he has never called me. My question is, what was the point of asking me to give him another chance after the first incidence while he knows very well that he's seeing somebody else? he keeps on telling me he loves me, does he really mean it? am in the cross road because I I love him so much..
2006-09-04 23:59:00 · 22 answers · asked by Fanta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is cheating you
2006-09-05 00:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by prince 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are subtle differences between men and women, suggest you read the book women are from venus and men are from mars... Men will often tell a woman what she wants to hear, rather than what he really feels, as it is the most direct route to getting where he wants to be, or more so what he wants.
Men are more insecure when it comes to relationships, and i sense this man iis an insecure person...it is blatently obvious he is no good for you, probably no good for anybody, so bite the bullet, take the pain of disappointment and move on, there is somebody better waiting for you....
2006-09-05 07:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dont Love u dear just forget him, if he really do love u he wont ever tell u that theres some other girl he wanna marry,
and when he said he wants u and he want other chance he was just playing with ur feeling so u be always there when he needs something from u.
sorry this is so hard words 2 say but 4 ur good sake leave him coz i dont think he is in love with u.
2006-09-05 07:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by shy80guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, I think this guy wants to have his cake and eat it. He is lying to you. Read again what you said, you saw him driving the car, you called him and he said he couldnt speak and would call you later, then he called you and said you didnt see him, what is he trying to do, drive you mad? Yes probably he is, he will reduce you to a nervous wreck and then you will be nice and do as you are told and he can do what he wants. My advice, there is a big beautiful world out there, and you are worth more than this, get rid of him and start living and loving yourself.
Hugs Liz
2006-09-05 07:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by lizzie_sav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite know how to break it to you, but I'm not too sure that he loves you. I think the problem he is displaying is fear of commitment. It seems that whenever he is supposed to make a big choice in his life, like getting married, he backs out. You mentioned that at one point you talked abouit having kids? Please notice that all he ever does is talk. I'm really not trying to be mean, and I know how hard this can be. I know that there is absolutley no point in telling you to erase all thoughts of him from your hearts and mind, but please, please try. He can't commit to anything, and every time you'll want him to make a decision, he'll worm his way out. I know you love him. He, in most probobility, loves you, or at least loved you. But that doesn't mean you were destined to marry and grow old together. Call him and give him one more chance to make it up. If he takes it, good, if he doesn't, then that's okay. Prepare yourself for every possobility and remember that it's his loss if he doesn't take you up.
btw-good luck! â¥
2006-09-05 07:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by too tired to sleep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a fanny who is torn between two women and trying miserably to juggle the pair of you. He sounds like a coward and if he is trying not to hurt yours or the other chick's feelings then he is seriously deluded also. You say you have talked about marriage and children with him, then he announces he wants to marry someone else? Get shot and stop pandering to this moron.
2006-09-05 07:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! I didn't even have to read half of your question to discover he's playing you like a two-bit cello! Forget he ever existed, he is using you for a bit of fun and nothing more. He can't get his cake and eat it too, honey. Get some balls, rip out his if necessary, and move on with your life. Men like that are not worth anyone's time.
2006-09-05 07:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes keeping you as a back up romance - he obviously isnt in love with you though to treat you the way he has - Best thing you can do is forget this guy and find someone AVAILABLE and willing to treat you right. Trust me - he doesnt love you - for your own sake Id cut all contact with this guy and if he does call you - hang up.
2006-09-05 07:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon - he's just playing with you. Wanting to know if he can win you back or not. Its all a game to people like him. Forget him, delete his number, throw out anything that reminds you of him and move on with your life. Better guys out there - ones who dont play stupid mind games!
2006-09-05 07:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him!
Once a man messes you around he'll do it again....and again....and again.
I speak from experience. Dump him and find someone who only has eyes for you! I did, six years ago, and I've never been happier than I am now!
Your guy sounds like a complete jerk!
2006-09-05 07:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by Copper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he thought of you as a backup plan to satisfy his ego. When you started to inquire about his life, he felt annoyed and lost his temper at you. Forget that jerk and move on. You deserve someone better.
2006-09-05 07:07:41 · answer #11 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋