Last night my boyfriend was on about moving in together, He doesnt want to move in with me but it sounded like he would move to a new place with me. So I had a look today at places to rent, text him saying I saw a nice place. He came up with excuses saying that its a bit out of the way for going out etc. So I replied saying thats true hoping that he would suggest looking somewhere different, and I have still had no reply! Should I push him? Ask him straight out if he wants to get a place together? Or, just wait till he brings it up again? Im so confused!!!!
2006-09-04 23:34:19 · 9 answers · asked by ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive been in this situation and my friend is in the process of it , men are very hard to work out ! i think it does scare them very much so.
my friend bf has different excuss's every time she txts him and says ive find somewhere! ie.... to small, cost to much , don't like it , to far away !
i think maybe you should ask him straight out is this really what you want! do it in a way were you can put the words in his mouth, and see what his reply is
example . do you think we should wait a while ? if he says yes then he obviously is'nt ready
i feel for you , i really do ! men are hard work , when it comes to things like this ,
they can't imagine spending the rest of their lifes with you !
2006-09-04 23:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt come back to you about it by tonight - THEN ask him straight out - but not in a ratty way, just be cool about it. Its a big step so maybe hes just approacting it with caution - and you cant really blame him I think ye need to sit down and discuss this together - then make a list of what kind of places you would be willing to move too - it feels more like a joint effort then instead of one partner domineering the move. Good luck!
2006-09-04 23:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll never understand why women are so cowed about insisting a man be interested in committing himself to her in marriage instead of just allowing him to have the priveledge ofher intimate company with no strings. Sure its "just a piece of paper" and doesnt guarantee anything but doesn't it show how low women are regarded that they have to sneak around and "beg" for any type of real commitment? I tihnk the pendulum has gone too far. Women you should insist on what you need and not give in to less than that. I guess it too old fahioned but I think its gone backwards for women nowadays.
2006-09-05 00:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving in together is a really big step and a life changing experience. sit him down and ask him straight out if he honestly wants to move in together but at the same time reassuring him that if its not what he wants then your ok with carrying on with the way things are now ie.living seperately
2006-09-04 23:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by SA angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down dude...
You don't even know that he DOES want to live in a new place with you. You have assumed that!
I'd let it lie for a couple of months, then ask him what he thinks about moving to a new place together.
If you push him, the only way you will push him is away...
2006-09-04 23:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it easy for a time. He prob is balking at the idea of moving in as it is such a big step. Casually bring it up in a month or so, but until then just let it lie.
2006-09-05 04:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it for now. He is getting scared and needs time.
2006-09-04 23:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off - it's only 11.30.
2006-09-04 23:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby find someone that wants to share and be part of ur dreams.....................then make it reality
2006-09-04 23:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by ho2asme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋