i am not interested in such i told her
but she became undressing totally.
i made her wear her clothes and asked her to think about that i don't want all this.what shall i do now?
2006-09-04 22:49:25 · 26 answers · asked by max s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why? Are you nuts?
2006-09-04 22:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ah Boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend doesn't want sex per se, she knows your reluctance and it bothers her and challenges her. You hang around her and eventually you will give in if you have normal hormones, if you know what I mean. She is trying to seduce you. So if you don't want to have sex, then I am afraid you will have to let her go. That's the problem. You want her company. It is wonderful having someone. However, it will always be on her terms, eventually. And besides, your incompatibility here spells the doom of your relationship unless you compromise. Then when you do, there is no guarantee that she won't reject you now that the challenge is over. Your real problem is that you have the wrong girlfriend. Bad company corrupts good morals.
Now you must know that reluctance to have sex with a half naked woman is not normal. Oh, I'll say it is smart, but then I have been around the block a time or two. My guess is that you are a virgin. Nothing wrong with that by the way. So there is a natural reluctance built in. You may have issues with embarrassment about parts of your body. Welcome to the club. Even the beautiful people have secret dreads about parts of their bodies. Why do you think they spend thousands on surgical improvements? Let me say it again: You have the wrong girlfriend. She will corrupt you. Relationships should have a cadence to them. Acquaintance, friendship, close friendship, closer friendship, affectionate friendship, love, commitment, intimacy. Love respects the other person. You have the wrong girlfriend. People are crazy. Did you know that? They go to a hardware store and buy gloves that fit, then go out and make one of the most important decisions of their lives and marry someone who doesn't fit them. When a girl fits you you will think she is your soul mate or the one God gave you, but you will know this is one very special girl. My advice is to wait for that special one. Sometimes reluctance to have sex comes from religious training. That's a good thing because it will keep you from making a mistake with a girl who obviously doesn't fit you. It will be a hard thing to give up this girlfriend, but it is a better alternative than keeping her. If you are strong you will kindly let her go and will resist her seductions that will get worse. If you are weak you will give in. She will wear you down. This is not the girl you want to live the rest of your life with and in any case you won't. You and she will be with someone else and then someone else and then someone else. This is how it all starts. A man asked me for help. He was committing adultery. He said that when she put her arms around him, it was all over. Yet he knew this was wrong. I told him that it was impossible to resist that while in her arms. The place to resist that was when he was in his own house and had the urge to go to her house. So you decide.
2006-09-04 23:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly, from your question I'd assume that you're young.. but you're right - you're better off not rushing into things. You two should talk about it and tell her to think long and hard about it (no pun intended), if she gets upset ask her why she can't respect your choice, as you would respect hers if she was the one who wasn't ready for sex. Tell her that you want things between the two of you to get more serious before you take it to that level but let her know at the same time that you do want to be with her.. or she might start thinking crazy things, like you're messing with somebody else. Hope this helps.
2006-09-04 22:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not your gf anymore! Now you'll deal with what girl's hate can do, even if she loves you. The only way to escape is to either have sex with her (not once) and say you've been an idiot, or flea to another country *:)
2006-09-04 22:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong if you take that step of having or enjoying sex is concerned. Be true don't hide anything, you frequently won't be getting this chance of special moments in your life which will be unforgettable.
2006-09-04 22:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by vjkiran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you dont want have have sex....but there are other methods of enjoyment you could do without having "traditional" sex. Maby that will hold her off untill you are ready?
2006-09-04 22:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Erik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap yourself in the face a couple of times. And give me her phone number
2006-09-04 22:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now you will have to deal with the "weirdness" between you. If you don't want to have sex, for whatever reasons, explain to her that she must respect your decision.
2006-09-04 22:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dulie Woolie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems u a telling a lie
2006-09-04 23:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by har 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell her your not ready if she actually loves you she'll understand or take the better option and have sex with her.
2006-09-04 22:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u r a sucker . whether u r impotent or she was not good does she had boobs should have sucked it give her little pleasure and then did what u did she would have been satisfied tell her that u dnt wnt her to concieve.
2006-09-04 22:53:40 · answer #11 · answered by one_nighturs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋