I am not picky...
Im a nice, smart, attractive girl, but i always seem to attract guys that are losers or weird. Sometimes they are smart, but boring. Other guys are cute, but have like 500 slutty girls on their myspace page! And the rest of u guys all want a bed-buddy, instead of a girl friend.... What the hells up that? (BTW: I'm 23, and although I will never give up on men and become a lesbian...I wont be dating anymore crazy guys...) But i just have to know, are any other girls feeling the same way?
2006-09-04 22:46:02 · 23 answers · asked by me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yeah- this is a legitimate ? people. Not an opportunity to be rude.
Thanks :)
2006-09-04 22:49:14 · update #1
Well.. first off, forget MySpace.. that is no comparison to a real relationship. I had a problem similar to yours.. You're seeing the flaws in men instead of the good qualities they have.. Possibly even picking out the flaws. I'm not saying you should settle for less.. it's true: "aim high" but not too high hun. Find somebody you have things in common with and you find attractive to start off, then take it from there. Give 'em a chance.
2006-09-04 22:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its your approach. Its likely you met the nerds in a situation that would have gotten you to date a guy that probably would never approach you in public, like a class room, etc. Such guys tend to rejoice at their opportunity to date an attractive girl, but find themselves far to nervous around you to "do" anything normal...like talk. The Guys with loads of sluts.. you probably met them in a slut ridden environment like a bar/club/party...... not all guys want a bed buddy, some of us have spent their life seeking that perfect friend of the opposite sex to grow with and enjoy.....as for those that just want a bed buddy, they just haven't seen the higher levels of enjoyment one can achieve by actually knowing who they are sleeping with....i would recommend you taking some time and focusing on what attracts you to a guy, and think of how you would really meet a guy like that. also by not being picky, you will end up wasting a lot of time. Be picky, don't close your doors to experiencing new people since that's in fact how you'll meet Mr. right, but if he doesn't give you any highs, whatsoever, hes not going to....(BTW I'm 23 as well) good luck, happy hunting, its all a gamble and odds anyway. Like poker, or black jack, your going to get what your dealt, playing wise just betters your odds.
2006-09-05 06:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by jdrisch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds exactly like ME - and MY predicament! Only difference here is, I'm 50, and you're 23. And yes, I DO feel the same way about it as YOU do! You'd think all these jerks would GROW UP by the time they get to be my age, but I've seen NO EVIDENCE of that, yet!
As a matter of fact, they only seem to get WORSE with age. Better get 'em, and TRAIN 'em while they're still young, or they're ruined for life! Even then, it's a gamble. A huge portion of the male population are beyond becoming domesticated. They are like savage, wild animals who cannot be civilized. Of course, there IS another option - you could always hang out with GAY men!!! But I wouldn't really advise that - you might just end up falling for one of them, only to ultimately wind up back at square one just like I did.
Seems like ya just can't win either way. But hey - you're only 23, and I'm sure your options MUST be far greater than mine! Good luck finding a DECENT man - no matter WHAT your age is, you're gonna need it!!!!
2006-09-05 06:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you (as fatherly advice) that there aren't a whole lot of young men worth going out with. The only thing I would question on your part would be what you mean by "boring"?
2006-09-05 05:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People subconsciously try to recreate the environment they were raised with, even if it wasn't good for them. Was there a lot of confusion and arguing in your family when you were a kid? Were one of your parents alcoholic? If they were, check out Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA). It'll help you break the pattern.
2006-09-05 05:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't met the right one. If you are as beautiful as you asy you are, you won't have any problem attracted one. Just be clear in your mind about what you want. You will have a fair idea of whether they stack up to your expectations fairly quickly.
Good luck
2006-09-05 06:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by oooooo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have a thing for attracting wierdos. try a diferent aproach like becoming friends first. im 20 , male and have nearly given up on girls . i always seem to get cheated on
2006-09-05 05:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by david p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there IS something wrong with every guy out there. I totally feel the same way.
2006-09-05 12:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know any girls that dont feel that way at one or a thousand points in time. I finally got w\hat i thought i wanted, still searchin! Be happy by yourself n with yourself. What u deserve will find you.
2006-09-05 05:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by getsomeglenna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your internal world represents you external world.
Have you ever wondered that the flaws you see in others are actually flaws in yourself.
I know, it painful but honest truth is always hard to take.
Good luck!
2006-09-05 05:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫♪Isaac♪♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋